FIRST DATE IDEAS FROM MEMBERS

Talking a bit over coffee or whatever beverage she wants, talking alone for a bit just interacting seeing how we flow and/ if she should want to bail because she thinks I'm a goober

Dinner and play cards with my son and his family

casual evenings, or days, a meal, drink, chat.

a nice meal and a quiet drink afterwards

dinner or a movie.. soft music

Something simple where we can meet and chat to see if there is an interest.

Meet for coffee or drinks and see if there is any connection.

coffee date at resturant or romantic dinner

drinking a good cup of coffee at a coffee shop or surprise me I'm easy to please

A coffee in Starbucks on a quiet afternoon.

A nice conversation around the table in a cozi place!

A nice dinner by the water with a beautiful sunset, a glass of wine and a little music in the background.

Spending time getting to know each other

maybe go out for a cup of coffee or a drink maybe play a round of golf

One with laughter and chemistry...

open up to talk

this depends on what we both would like ...

meet for Coffee, or Lunch

Mmhmm bueno, mas q de una cita divertida. Me gusta empezar con un rico café y una buena plática. Porfa no me inviten "una copa", no tomo y se me hace de mal gusto....

We’ll meet at any coffee house to tell if either of us has a vibe. ; we agreed beforehand to have no agenda. Plan A: Wow, he’s finer and nicer that I expected. I hope he’s interested in me. I’ll know immediately if he is. The connection is mutual. After the initial, but awkward “Phew” moment Plan B: If we don’t connect within the first few minutes, we had no commitment. It’s an easy way out for both of us. A light dinner, a walk in the park — even hang at the same coffee shop. Neither will commit either of us to an endless night if we don’t connect. I commit to myself to keeping the conversation topical. If I say too little, he might perceive that I’m uninterested in him; if I’m too much to the opposite, he may think I’m too forward and needy. If I get a positive vibe from him, I want to create a mystique if he will have any interest in me. Ahhh, assuming we’ve met briefly and agreed to a date: keep it low-key, no special agenda. Exchange a few thoughts and ideas; the rest is mutually simultaneous. I’d keep the conversation topical (and mystical) for a first date — I believe it’s necessary to save the deeper facts and conversation for potential future dates. Conversely, if I dig for too much personal information, it could backfire, making me seem needy and scare him off. It ends with my suggestion of a near future meet — if appropriate. If his response is “yes”, whether gauged orally, with a subtle, shy smile and that simultaneous eye stare, or by his head slightly shaking vertically. I’d ask for a hug and kiss. If the language is yes, I’d move in on him with a hug lasting just long enough to express that more than a casual interest exists, yet remain respectful. Once separated, I’d reach for his hand and squeeze it, man-to-man style, yet use slightly less pressure. I’d wish him a good night. Then, I’d smile just wide enough so as to lift my cheeks toward my eyes. Still smiling, I’d wink in slightly-more-than-slow more speed, turn away and go home.