You might have heard the saying “Age is just a number”. Well, this quote was not widely accepted a long time ago, but now, it is not considered much of a social taboo. So if you are a younger man looking for an older woman, you wouldn’t have to worry about social acceptance. Couples with substantial age differences are now all over the place. But what to expect if you do fall in love with an older woman? Here are some of the many things you need to know about older women in relationships.
Difference in lifestyles
You and she are in different phases of life. You might still have your head shoved in the early stages of establishing a career, and she might be financially stable. You might be living in an accommodation that is shared; she might be settled. She might also be a mother. So bear in mind that these differences might lead to a conflict. You need to clarify to her what you want from the relationship and have her do the same, so you can be sure that your priorities align.
If you give importance to the idea of family, then you will have to rethink your decision. She may or may not already have children, and you may or may not be her priority, at all times. Also, if you dream of having kids, she may not want to bring forth that part of her life again. Think about what she wants from a long term relationship, and act accordingly.
They are called cougars for a reason. Women peak in their sexual desires much later in life than men, and so you may find yourself aligned perfectly in your sexual lives. However, they will know what they want, so be prepared for her to establish control in bed and go with it.
Of course, the older you get, the more experienced you become. She is older and must have had previous dating experiences. And with that being the case, she can probably tell if you try to play any tricks on her, like using all those tired chat up lines and stories. She will be able to spot if you are any less than genuine. So make your intentions clear, and she will be direct with you as well.
An older woman, after going through a lot of dating experiences, will have a clear idea of what she wants and what she does not want. And, she will also not be afraid to verbalize it. You will always know the place where you stand. So try not to play any games.
It’s not always that an older woman is looking for a long term relationship with a younger man. Sometimes she’d just want a fling with someone who is not very serious. If that is what you want, well and good, but if you are searching for something a bit more serious, make it clear, this will help you avoid further complications.