I'm a good looking, slim, educated professional of good character. I have made about 200 inquiries. I have had about 2 good conversations, Many woman "like"me on the pages. very few ever communicate anything. The few that do engage in interrogation, shallow small talk that never changes to substance, many or are gold diggers seeking nothing but a man to use for free security and travel, personality disorders, unatractive and overweight women by the 100s, angry critics, obsessive compulsives, prudish hyperreligious types and a huge number of judgmental fearful people who never make a move toward finding a relationship because I must agree with everything they do and say and have no faults or difficult circumstances at all whatsoever. It seems that all the good, intelligent, rational and ethical women are already married and these are the table scraps. Any other men feel that way.
I get the "Likes", I wink back and then get a question. I answer the question and reply back. That's as far as it goes. WTF! AND have you guys noticed that most of the ladies who do send you a quick question, the question is usually the same almost word-for-word as two or more previous women have sent? Again WTF? Is there no originality out there and why would any guy not want that? Just sayin'
It's hard for women too. I get views and winks but few messages. If I send a message, I get no reply. If there are overweight and ugly women (which is a mean thing to say, by the way), there are an equal number of scary men. Your post mentions all sorts of negative traits. Perhaps you should read a woman's profile more carefully, looking for positive traits. Most men tend to look at the picture first, then the age and often never read the profile. This method doesn't help your cause!
I agree that it is very difficult to attract the attention of a woman on this site and any other dating site. Women are thinking the same thing about men no doubt. As seniors we are a worldy population of human beings. We have all been through the mill at least twice, had our hearts broken more times than we care to remember, and have suffered all sorts of traumas. We might even have health problems - and those never come to light in an online profile. So there is a learned tendency to be cautious and move slowly. Glacially. Online dating is a poor tool for connecting with people but it is one of the very few that we do have so I have stayed with it without high expectations, but sometimes I am surprised with a pleasant encounter. Patience is the key, online or off.