I'm a good looking, slim, educated professional of good character. I have made about 200 inquiries. I have had about 2 good conversations, Many woman "like"me on the pages. very few ever communicate anything. The few that do engage in interrogation, shallow small talk that never changes to substance, many or are gold diggers seeking nothing but a man to use for free security and travel, personality disorders, unatractive and overweight women by the 100s, angry critics, obsessive compulsives, prudish hyperreligious types and a huge number of judgmental fearful people who never make a move toward finding a relationship because I must agree with everything they do and say and have no faults or difficult circumstances at all whatsoever. It seems that all the good, intelligent, rational and ethical women are already married and these are the table scraps. Any other men feel that way.
I think it's normal not to want to tell a stranger everything about yourself until you trust him and that takes a little time and patience. Also, giving out too much information gives hackers and identify theft people too much ammunition. We understand that the intended recipient is not the only one to read our comments. As for photos, one should be enough to give you an idea of what we look like. If we ever meet face to face, that's the time to share more.
I don.t like sites that send you a ghost message when I view your profile. O.K. I looked at you, and if I were interested I would have messaged you. A wink or flirt says I looked, look at me, if interested respond back.
Many complaints about stale pics. Understandable. Posting out dated posed pics shows the 'lookers' younger faces. As a man I see a lot of this from women. Be honest. Post what you look like now not years ago please.
Too many post listings without details.If you don't tell me something about yourself and what you'd like to find I have nothing to decide on and it's a waste of money for you.
Excuse the rant but I'm discouraged with the "here I am come get me" attitude women have on these sites. And the ones who message endlessly instead of stepping up and meeting to check things out. And especially the ones who don't bother a contact when they have a question.
To all the above,first the gracious man who says he is good looking...That is his opinion,let the ladies tell you that.Not nice to brag about your self..We are not scraps left over..It took two in a divorce,leaving two people single..Two people in a marriage one passes a way..One is left alone to either start over are sit on the sidelines..It is called life....Next,true health issues are hard to tell a stranger..We that are older are expected to have a few issues..It does not mean we are down for the count..Not fun,or a good traveling buddy...When we were young,healthy people we had great out looks..We were not afraid of illness,injury and would live forever..Why is it so hard to accept some ones disability great or small when we become older..If we can not tell you,meet you and you are put off and nasty,what does that say about honesty..At least be kind.You do not have to ask that person out again..We assume every one can handle this situation kndly,but not the case..You then are treated as some one contagious..So who should be the most embarrassed of the two.No one needs ugly,no one needs pity...It is in the desires of people as what they are capabable of handling
them selves so neither party need to become upset at the other...Do not be rude,be respectful...Tomorrow we may be looking at all sorts of ailments we never expected..Heart attacks,Strokes and the age of victims is getting younger...Act in good Conscensious.
I get the "Likes", I wink back and then get a question. I answer the question and reply back. That's as far as it goes. WTF! AND have you guys noticed that most of the ladies who do send you a quick question, the question is usually the same almost word-for-word as two or more previous women have sent? Again WTF? Is there no originality out there and why would any guy not want that? Just sayin'
It's hard for women too. I get views and winks but few messages. If I send a message, I get no reply. If there are overweight and ugly women (which is a mean thing to say, by the way), there are an equal number of scary men. Your post mentions all sorts of negative traits. Perhaps you should read a woman's profile more carefully, looking for positive traits. Most men tend to look at the picture first, then the age and often never read the profile. This method doesn't help your cause!
I agree that it is very difficult to attract the attention of a woman on this site and any other dating site. Women are thinking the same thing about men no doubt. As seniors we are a worldy population of human beings. We have all been through the mill at least twice, had our hearts broken more times than we care to remember, and have suffered all sorts of traumas. We might even have health problems - and those never come to light in an online profile. So there is a learned tendency to be cautious and move slowly. Glacially. Online dating is a poor tool for connecting with people but it is one of the very few that we do have so I have stayed with it without high expectations, but sometimes I am surprised with a pleasant encounter. Patience is the key, online or off.