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  • 10 tips for a good long distance relationship

    They say "Absence makes the heart grow fonder", but anyone who is or has been in a long distance relationship knows the key to success is more than just absence. Long distance relationships are built on loyalty, trust, and respect. While these relationships sometimes are misunderstood by those who are not involved, the couple who is committed to making it work knows that the challenges posed by distance can become strengths in the relationship. Long distance is not for every couple, but for those who know they have found their soul mates, a few thousand miles cannot keep love from growing and blooming into a beautiful relationship. I suggest that the following 10 tips can help a long distance relationship jump over the hurdles and make it to the finish line - when both members of the couple are in the same city for good.

    1. Make a game plan - When a long distance relationship is beginning to form, it is important for both members to determine what they want to do for the short and long terms. As with all good relationships, it's important to remember to make each person comfortable with the plan and to allow for give and take as the relationship evolves.
    2. Communication is key - Let the other person know how much you miss them and love them. With thousands of miles in between you and your beloved, it's easy to become insecure, so try to nip that in the bud. Make the person know how much you care by telling them how much you love and miss them every time you speak.
    3. Be there for the person in good times and bad times. The phrase "I'm only a phone call away" takes on new meaning to those in a long distance relationship. Whereas people in local relationships can see each other to celebrate their successes and reach out for a hug or shoulder to lean on when things do not go so well, people in long distance relationships need to provide that support on the phone. Be able to be reached when you say you will be, then listen and respond accordingly to the news you hear from the other end of the line.
    4. Make the commitment. Long distance relationships are tough, so they definitely need the commitment of both parties in order to make it through the often long days and nights. While it can take a lot of work to make a long distance relationship work, remember that it is worth it because it could be your soul mate that you are talking to each night before you go to sleep.
    5. Send old-fashioned letters and packages through the mail. Everyone loves to see personal mail in the mailbox instead of simply finding bills there day after day. Not only that, but it's romantic to see the thoughts and emotions of your loved one spelled out in a card or a letter. Snail mail also gives you the opportunity to send care packages filled with your sweetheart's favorite things, remembrances of you or a special day, or even inside jokes the two of you share. The use of old-fashioned mail gives your relationship a sense of romanticism that often is overlooked - plus, it's fun!
    6. Uncork the bottle. If something is bothering you, say it. Do not let it build up because it is noticeable on the phone or in notes if you are not 100% happy with something. Not dealing with problems directly always is tough, but in a long distance relationship that depends on honest and open communication, it is imperative to discuss these issues right from the start.
    7. Use technology to your advantage. E-mails, text messages, and the advances in Web cameras really help long distance lovers stay close throughout the long spaces in between visits. E-mails and text messages allow you to send short notes of love and short updates on what you are up to in your hometown while the other person goes on with his/her day. The Web cam is a huge advancement for long distance relationships as it allows for the two of you to have face-to-face conversations as long as both of you have an Internet connection and a camera. Seeing your sweetheart's facial expressions can often make what would have been a normal old phone conversation turn into an amazing meeting between the two of you. Remember to use these technologies to say "I love you" as often as possible.
    8. Common interests give you topics to discuss. When you live in the same city, it is easy to find things to talk about because you constantly are sharing experiences. When you live apart, those shared experiences are few and far between. Common interests help both of you know that you will have something to chat about each time you get on the phone or see each other in person. If you enjoy hockey, encourage your loved one to watch a game or two with you, then this could be another shared interest for the two of you. If your significant other decides to pick up tennis while you live apart, sign yourself up for some lessons and you may just find yourself to be an ace on the court and off!
    9. Make the other person remember how great you are! Talk about the good things about your life and remind your loved one about how great you are. If you wear your favorite outfit to the office and know that you looked fabulous, tell your significant other about how super you looked in that outfit that both of you like so much; chances are your better half will hear this and smile with memories of how you always look good wearing that outfit. If you do something great, share it - it is easy to share the bad times with your partner, but be sure to include that person in on all the good times, too. This will remind him or her about the wonderful person on the other end of the phone call and make the desire to see you in person even greater.
    10. Plan visits. Nothing can take the place of a visit from your partner who lives far away. Plan the visit, then make sure that person gets all the quality time he/she deserves during that time (for example, do not plan a night out with the girls the night your boyfriend arrives). Be sure to enjoy each other's company when you are together because this is a major part of what will keep your relationship alive during the weeks, months, or years apart.

    Following these tips may not make your long distance relationship perfect, but it should help you make the best of your time apart - and keep your relationship on solid footing until you two are lucky enough to end up in the same city. Good luck!

    By Justice82, Pompano Beach, Florida, United States

  • 7 keys to make a long distance relationship work

    All уоu need is lоvе. That іѕ whаt the films аnd ѕоngѕ say, but whаt hарреnѕ whеn уоur love оr whole fаmіlу is lіvіng hundrеdѕ, оr even thousands оf miles аwау іn another соuntrу.

    Aѕ the world is getting ѕmаllеr, thаnkѕ mainly tо ѕосіаl mеdіа and сhеареr / mоrе соnvеnіеnt air trаvеl, іt seems that more аnd mоrе of uѕ having lоng distance relationships bеfоrе and іn mаrrіаgе. Thеrе аrе millions оf реорlе whо аrе involved wіth lоng distance relationships, despite thе preconceived nоtіоn thаt they juѕt dоn't work.

    If уоu аrе one of the mаnу millions оf people whо fееl lonely rіght nоw bесаuѕе thе lоvе of уоur life (and perhaps сhіldrеn) аrе far аwау, console уоurѕеlf wіth the thоught thаt lоng dіѕtаnсе rеlаtіоnѕhірѕ аnd marriages can, and dо wоrk. Some реорlе have chosen tо be іn lоng distance relationships, whіlе оthеrѕ аrе in thе ѕіtuаtіоn duе tо wоrk соmmіtmеntѕ оr financial reasons. Thіѕ іѕ prevalent across many knоw "еxраt cities" аnd "expat countries." It іѕ reported thаt there аrе аt lеаѕt 10 mіllіоn реорlе wоrldwіdе thаt аrе іnvоlvеd with long dіѕtаnсе rеlаtіоnѕhірѕ оf ѕоmе ѕоrt. Thought уоu wеrе thе оnlу person fасіng thе сhаllеngеѕ a long distance rеlаtіоnѕhір саn brіng? Thіnk аgаіn, I speak to mаnу аnd bеlоw I have оutlіnеd some success ѕесrеtѕ fоr you from thоѕе I have hаd the privilege tо wоrk wіth

    1. Shаrе thе trаvеllіng
    Where роѕѕіblе share ѕоmе оf the trаvеllіng. Travelling tаkеѕ up a lot of time аnd іѕ еxhаuѕtіng fоr thе traveler. Not tо mеntіоn thе соѕt іf уоu аrе not married оr ѕhаrіng еxреnѕеѕ. I hаvе wоrkеd wіth ѕеvеrаl mаrrіеd еxраtѕ whо flу over 7 hоurѕ fоr a wееkеnd every 4 оr 5 weeks, they аrе wiped оut by the tіmе thеу gеt thеrе, ѕо іf уоu have the option tо share dо ѕо, ѕо that neither оf уоu gеt fed uр.

    2. Enѕurе уоu hаvе alone time but dоn't іѕоlаtе
    Pеtеr hаѕ lived аwау frоm hіѕ family for mаnу уеаrѕ. Jobs аt hіѕ lеvеl and ѕаlаrу аrе juѕt nоt аvаіlаblе in thе UK. Hіѕ wіfе hаѕ always rеfuѕеd to jоіn hіm, arguing ѕhе and thе children аrе ѕеttlеd. In thе раѕt 10 уеаrѕ, thеу have оnlу had 1 full year together. Pеtеr came tо mе tо dіѕсuѕѕ whеthеr hіѕ marriage was оvеr or соuld be ѕаvеd. I nеvеr judgе оr give my оріnіоn on thіѕ mаttеr, but I do hеlр іndіvіduаlѕ and соuрlеѕ gain сlаrіtу оn thеіr mоѕt іmроrtаnt еmоtіоnаl nееdѕ and hеlр them еѕtаblіѕh whеthеr thеіr nееdѕ can аnd wіll bе met by ѕtауіng. Wе аlѕо review thе rеlаtіоnѕhір (highs and lоwѕ) to determine асtіоnѕ or discussion points to сrеаtе positive сhаngе. One thing Pеtеr fоund frustrating was thаt thеу nеvеr hаd any alone tіmе. The children 9, 11 and 14 were wіth them аll day аnd іn the еvеnіngѕ hіѕ wіfе Susan wеnt out. Shе ѕаw hіѕ trірѕ bасk hоmе аѕ an орроrtunіtу tо рut hеrѕеlf first, tо ѕее frіеndѕ and dо асtіvіtіеѕ ѕhе соuldn't nоrmаllу dо being a full tіmе mum. Pеtеr wаѕ hurt ѕhе wоuldn't mоvе out to bе wіth hіm аnd hurt she wеnt оut whеn he came home, but didn't ѕау anything because hе didn't want tо аrguе in the little tіmе thеу hаd tоgеthеr. All relationships need ѕоmе "tоgеthеr аlоnе tіmе" otherwise іmроrtаnt nееdѕ ѕuсh аѕ аffесtіоn аnd іntіmасу will not bе met.
    The reason I mention not tо іѕоlаtе is because ѕоmе couples dо the rеvеrѕе аnd lock themselves іn together аnd thіѕ can cause рrоblеmѕ tоо. When Yuѕuf got a new jоb іn Sаudі Arаbіа, hе flew home every 2 wееkѕ. Aѕ huѕbаnd and wіfе they fеlt that they ought tо ѕреnd the 48 hоurѕ they hаd оnlу wіth еасh оthеr. Thіѕ саuѕеd frustration for them both, аѕ they turned dоwn frіеndѕ аnd thіngѕ they used tо enjoy. Boredom bесаmе a rеаl issue, аѕ they juѕt stayed in tоgеthеr еvеrу wееkеnd. Yuѕuf саllеd me because he wаѕ concerned hіѕ fruѕtrаtіоn and boredom meant he hаd fallen out of love. Aftеr оur сhаt hе ѕроkе to hіѕ wіfе аnd thеу ѕtаrtеd doing dіffеrеnt activities, ѕіnсе thеn thеу hаvе mоrе аррrесіаtіоn fоr their аlоnе tіmе and their bоnd has become ѕtrоngеr.

    3. Be as open аnd honest аѕ роѕѕіblе
    Whіlѕt араrt kеер thе rеlаtіоnѕhір alive by bеіng open and hоnеѕt аbоut everything уоu are thіnkіng, feeling and dоіng. Shаrіng your dаіlу schedule, thоughtѕ, рlаnѕ builds trust. Truѕt іѕ kеу for a long distance rеlаtіоnѕhір. Wіthоut іt, уоu mау wоndеr whаt thе оthеr person іѕ dоіng while уоu аrе nоt thеrе or еvеn dоubt thеrе fіdеlіtу to уоu. If уоu leave оut information thе quality tіmе thаt you ѕреnd together оn the end оf a telephone lіnе саn ԛuісklу еnd up in mind games, dеѕtrоуіng thе ѕmаll аmоunt of tіmе you dо gеt to bе сlоѕе tоgеthеr. Yоu do not have the luxury thаt "normal" соuрlеѕ have tо mаkе up, so mаkіng thе mоѕt оf thіѕ ԛuаlіtу time ѕhоuld bе tор of уоur аgеndа. If thе wоndеrѕ dо start сrееріng up оn уоu, remember thаt уоur relationship іѕ buіlt оn trust, lоvе аnd respect.

    4. Agree regular communication
    Jealousy саn аlѕо соmе wіthоut regular соmmunісаtіоn. Wе'vе аll been there... thеу dоn't рhоnе whеn they ѕау thеу wіll аnd ѕtrаіght аwау your mіnd ѕtаrtѕ wandering... are thеу with someone еlѕе оr саn thеу nоt bе bothered tо ѕреаk tо mе, etc.? In order to avoid this, аgrее that you wіll рhоnе, mеѕѕаgе, or email аt least оnсе a dау. If уоu wаnt thіѕ relationship tо wоrk, you nееd to fееl lіkе уоu аrе іn a "regular" marriage аnd relationship, оnе whеrе if уоu wаnt to offload уоur troubles/share your nеwѕ fоr thе dау, уоu knоw thаt he/she іѕ there for уоu. If jеаlоuѕу іѕ аn іѕѕuе contact me I hаvе a ѕіmрlе 2 ѕеѕѕіоn рrоgrаm that helps shift your mіndѕеt.

    5. Uѕе a wеbсаm оr Skype whеnеvеr роѕѕіblе
    Whilst thіѕ саnnоt compensate fоr асtuаllу bеіng wіth ѕоmеоnе, іt'ѕ a grеаt wау to keep in tоuсh whіlѕt уоu'rе apart. The fасt thаt уоu саn see еасh other and аrе gіvіng еасh оthеr undivided аttеntіоn іѕ іmроrtаnt. It іѕ all tоо easy tо bе оn thе рhоnе, whilst еngаgіng іn оthеr асtіvіtіеѕ ѕuсh аѕ wаtсhіng TV, rеаdіng уоur еmаіlѕ / ѕосіаl media uрdаtеѕ, driving, ѕhорріng, сооkіng etc. I hаvе tо аdmіt, I аm guіltу оf thіѕ оnе myself аѕ I аm аlwауѕ trуіng tо do 3 things аt once. But you can tell whеn ѕоmеоnе іѕ nоt fully lіѕtеnіng аnd their attention іѕ еlѕеwhеrе. It is hurtful and frustrating fоr thе реrѕоn tаlkіng and саn dеѕtrоу communication. Good соmmunісаtіоn is the kеу tо ѕtrеngthеn аnd keep your rеlаtіоnѕhір a lіght whіlѕt apart.

    6. Turn thе away time іntо a positive
    Don't spend every nіght уоu'rе nоt tоgеthеr wishing tіmе аwау. Mаkе the mоѕt of уоur іndереndеnсе (whilst ѕtіll hаvіng a relationship) bу lеаrnіng a new ѕkіll, dеvеlоріng уоur career оr buѕіnеѕѕ idea, ѕосіаlіzіng with frіеndѕ, gоіng to thе gуm or ѕіmрlу pampering уоurѕеlf.

    7. Ensure уоu have a common goal
    Thіѕ іѕ рrоbаblу thе most іmроrtаnt оnе of аll. If уоu are apart you need to hаvе a rеаѕоn and common purpose /gоаl fоr thе futurе. A plan thаt уоu both value аnd аrе working together tоwаrdѕ. Fоr еxаmрlе you are living араrt, so that you саn hаvе enough mоnеу tо; рut уоur сhіldrеn thrоugh рrіvаtе ѕсhооl, have a grеаt retirement, get out of dеbt, look аftеr fаmіlу, buу уоur drеаm home, fіnіѕh education, dеvеlор уоur саrееr. Without a ѕhаrеd рurроѕе оr goal for thе futurе, іt іѕ harder tо kеер the rеlаtіоnѕhір аlіvе.

    Onсludіng thoughts
    Lіkе any rеlаtіоnѕhір, long dіѕtаnсе rеlаtіоnѕhірѕ bеfоrе, and іn mаrrіаgе require еffоrt for thеm tо ѕuссееd. Cоmmunісаtіоn, trust, аnd hоnеѕtу wіll strengthen уоur rеlаtіоnѕhір whіlѕt уоu'rе араrt. Working tоwаrdѕ a common gоаl аnd ensuring уоu hаvе tіmе fоr just the two of уоu is аlѕо сruсіаl. Love іѕ nеvеr easy and ѕhоuld nеvеr bе taken fоr grаntеd аѕ enough tо mаkе a rеlаtіоnѕhір work. Whіlѕt lоng dіѕtаnсе rеlаtіоnѕhірѕ аnd marriages саn bе dіffісult, thеу саn work аnd dо wоrk fоr many couples іf bоth раrtіеѕ рut іn the еffоrt.

    By jul2017, East Ayrshire, United Kingdom

  • Always be positive when you're in a long distance relationship

    I have had a long distance relationship in the past, we also met online, we loved each other, hence it lasted two years. cut the story short, it didn't work out because non of us can relocated at that time and we both can not take the pain any more. so we ended it.

    My advice here are:
    1: Make sure you put all your cards on the table before you start the long distance such as how long this long distance going to be.
    2: Make sure you both put lots of time and effort into it, just like you are having a normal relationship, if not more.
    3: Make sure you both plan things ahead like holidays together and trips to see each other.
    4: Always keep the person informed of your movement of the day.
    5: Daily texts and phone calls are very important. and make that person aware that you thinking of him/her all the time. good luck everyone :)

    By Illinois, United States

  • Basic requirements for a successful first visit

    After meeting someone on-line and talking to them a few times, you may want to meet them in person. In a distance situation, this can be a very pressure-filed experience. After matching profiles, finding that you enjoy talking to the person, there can be expectations that are difficult to meet.

    Some of the things that can help alleviate stress and add to your success are:

    Have your own space - you may be comfortable staying at the other person's house, but make sure you have your own room and privacy. Staying in a hotel or with other friends (if possible), will give you the space that you may need. You shouldn't feel that you have to be intimate with the person just because you've begun a relationship and have come to visit them.

    Time - It is easy for familiarity to breed contempt. The first visit shouldn't be too long, just enough to see if there is chemistry and go out a few times. Leave something to the imagination! The man or woman you have just met should still be excited to see you and want more. If you spend a couple weeks with the person in their own home, it can push boundaries and comfort. Even a great first meeting can become stale quickly with too much contact.

    Make sure you have an out - You should be prepared to leave at any time if things become uncomfortable. On that note, if you feel unsafe at any time, don't wait for something concrete to happen. If something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. Make sure you know how to leave the town/city you are visiting, have a cab number ready and a ticket you can change if you need too. Hopefully you're already madly in love and want to stay. Just be ready for the alternative.

    Also, it can be fun to plan a few outings before arriving. That way you have things to do that will keep you busy and excited. This is a great way to get to know the other person without some of the awkwardness that can transpire.

    And remember that safe sex is still an issue. Don't refrain from using condoms and other safe-sex methods.

    By xXSolaceXx, British Columbia, Canada

  • Be flexible on relocating with your match

    A woman or man who seeks a successful man or woman should realize his/her success may be tied to where he/she lives now. And she/he should expect to move to him/her instead of the other way around.

    Many women after a divorce first set up a home, and a job, and "get their life in order" and then start to look for a new relationship, this can sometimes make them attractive to men who are in need of a place to live or who are unemployed or underemployed and to their detriment, unavailable to men who are settled and successful and can not relocate.

    A stable home life and finances are important. But a woman should be flexible on relocation or be clear in her profile that she cannot. The same for a man. If he cannot relocate, he should be clear. Many successful women are unable to relocate. Thus a man must expect to accommodate the woman in this case.

    By 2011bf2011, Pennsylvania, United States

  • Be optimist and have faith - Don't let jealousy overtake the relationship

    In any long distance relationship it's important to always have a future plan to where the relationship will head. Although not everyone can predict the future, there has to be some light at the end of the tunnel due to the distance. While each person is not within a convenient reach, trust will be an issue. Relationships in the same location even suffer trust issues, so imagine how it would be with distance. Next, trust can be maintained with regular meets and communication. Agree when to meet and communicate and how often. Aside from emails, calls, IM, and texts, Skype is a good way to maintain contact with visual communication and its free. Along, with trust always be completely honest and beware of jealousy. If one can't be honest, it's fair to not expect a good outcome. Besides, when a relationship is initiated with lies it usually ends as a lie. Jealousy reflects a lack of trust and understanding, so again communication is important. If all in the relationship is honest and compatible with that fire between the two, then be optimistic and have faith. Goodluck to everyone!

    By Maddy12, Florida, United States

  • Discuss it before springing it on someone

    When about to move to the next step of meeting someone don't rush. Discuss it before springing it on someone. The other person may not be as ready or available as you may think and it can make or break your situation. Also understand that your going the entire distance makes you all the more vulnerable. Make sure you're up for it!

    By ladylove1984, Boston, Massachusetts, United States

  • Do not be discouraged to make contact due to the long distance

    It is easy to look at ones profile and although they may hold some interest, one is discouraged when they see there is a long distance. At this point many make assumptions without ever speaking to the person to engage if they would apply effort to bridge such differences or indeed if they travel frequently, a meeting face to face may be possible but making general assumptions only ensures that the possibilities are never realized.

    At the end of the day it is far better to cast your net further that to fish in a small pond that may bring many fruitless years . If things work out never underestimate the power of compromise. Distance is never ideal but remember it is a barrier that is very easy to overcome for the right person and if one is serious about finding the right person with whom to spent the rest of their lives with it is foolish to put convenience over inconvenience,

    By smiles19772000, Dublin Ireland

  • Do things together, such as playing games online, video chat, etc.

    In order to have a successful long distance relationship; communication plays a huge role!! You have to be able to communicate often & effective. Yes, we all have busy schedules; make time! It doesn't have to be 12hrs a day either.

    Do things together! Play games online, video chat, etc!

    Visit each other! Set expectations on how often you can possibly make that happen.

    & HAVE FAITH IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP!

    By QueenArii, Georgia, United States

  • Dos and Dont's Of Long Distance Relationships

    Do- Communication is very important!

    Don't- Nagging is the worst thing you could do next to being insecure and jealous.

    Do- Remember that you both have lives of your own and yours doesn't revolve around the other person and vice-versa

    Don't- Don't think that you have the right to put the others life on hold at any point in time.

    Do- Speak on a regular basis, but remember that it's not always going to be at the most convenient time for you or for the other person, but do make the time.

    Don't- Don't cheat, that's what phone sex is for Do- Have phone sex, it's great for opening up communication about what you like and don't like which makes it easier when you are physically together Do- make trips to see each other and..

    Don't- expect only one person to be making the trips.

    By candyrae, Texas, United States

  • Effort, Effort and more Effort

    Keywords in a LDR (long distance relationship) are: Patience, determination, faith, dealing with different time zones and proper finances to travel. If you lack one, it's not gonna happen! Make sure you realize it takes much more effort to get to know each other when someone is on the other side of the ocean, than meeting someone in your own town. And, if you are not sure, don't do it. You are just gonna waste precious time. And last but not least, you need Skype on your computer. Skype has the best quality and connection. No LDR can last without Skype. And trust me, there's lots of fun ways getting to know each other on cam.

    By debstarcute ,Noord-Holland, Netherlands

  • Get creative in ways to get to know each other when your new crush is in another state.

    Ok so you found a person from the site you feel you connected with but OMG they are far away in another state. Even though you two have made plans to make that first intial meeting what do you do to keep each other interested in the meantime. These are just some suggestions that I have done.

    1. Dont be afraid to SKYPE(video chatting) its a way that person can get a feel for you and see your personality face to face (It can be actually fun)
    2. Rent the same movie and watch it at the same talk about it while yu are watching it. This is also another activity you can do while video chatting
    3. Learn to gain that person as a friend before a mate and have fun just some simple fun. You remember how it was when you was a teenager.
    4. Give each other an assignment of coming up an activity that you would like to do together When you see each other, maybe something new for the both of you.
    5. Dont let tecchnolgy take over in getting to know each other. Texting, email or social media can take away the true essence of getting to know someone
    6. Dont rush anything. Nothing easy to get is worthwhile in getting.

    By YOUJUSTGOTSAGGD, Tennessee, United States

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  • Help the relationship grow when in a LDR by using all the tools online available

    When trying to maintain a long distance relationship..one must remember they need to create an atmosphere of trust and openiness. It is always good to devote a certain amount of time to your partner. A way to do this would be to make a snack together over the phone or on skype. You would be sharing this quality time doing something with the person even know you two were miles apart.

    By stillcute8605, Arkansas, United States

    The advantages of technology bring us closer to people than every before. With the spread of online dating and long distance dating we have to find creative ways of staying in touch with people. I dated a girl who lived 1,000 miles from me for about 5 years. We constantly kept up with each other with the use of technology. Now, I'm not saying this will always work and keep things smooth but it does help.

    So to stay close, we started off with using the webcam every night while we did homework or we would put the same movie on Netflix and watch it together. From here we moved to playing games together online while we talked through a voice program. We would also check through each others college homework to make sure it was perfect and we sometimes would even eat dinner while using the webcam to give the sense of eating together. All of the various ways we used kept us close and we managed to stay together the entire time seeing each other in person when it was possible.

    By forevervenom, Austin, TX, United States

  • How Difficult is "The Long-Distance Thing"?

    There are many people out there who will automatically disregard any kind of relationship that isn't conveniently within 30 minutes driving distance. Now, on the one hand, this is logical and safe. But, on the other, why?

    Is it because of time?

    Long distance relationships bring back something that we have lost in this technological age, more time required to "get to know" someone before jumping into a commitment (like moving-in together.) Because time together is limited, it requires being fully present and making that time truly special. It also gives those with cold feet the opportunity to breathe and stay at a pace that doesn't have them sprinting down the aisle before they are ready.

    Is it a commitment issue?

    Think about it: If the desire to stray is there, distance is not the determining factor. Likewise, if two people want to be together, distance will not stop them. And if nothing else.... if your relationship can stand distance, it stands a great chance once you are together.

    So, why not take a chance? If you're on a dating site, it could be because the perfect mate for you isn't nearby.

    By ladyofthestage, Utah, United States

  • How far is too far?

    It used to be that long distance could kill a relationship, the letters would dry up and things become a chore as the phone bill rises.

    Now though, technology allows us to maintain or even start a long distance relationship much easier and with skype and webcams, see our partners even more.

    But can a relationship work if there is no chance of ever meeting up? Essentially, how far is too far?

    If both people want the same thing distance may not be a problem at all. It all depends on how you feel and what is comfortable for you. However, it may be that you begin, like any relationship, to want different things. That's when they break down, not because of the distance.



    By freeflow, England, United Kingdom
  • How to break the ice after making the first big trip

    The first drive or plane ride to see each other can be very scary. A good little worry remover would be to write a hand written letter to the person before telling them how excited you are that they are coming before they leave on the plane!! Then when they fly in BE READY! Have a slightly beautiful sign made with their name on it!! Do not make it huge but make it noticeable. This will make it easy for the person to find you, feel special about getting their own personalized sign. Second, when they reach your car have a small welcome to my city package. The package can contain a number of things like tickets to a show you are going to go see, a restaurant menu for eating out, chocolates, and small tokens of love and appreciation for having the guts to come. This will make the ride to a hotel or home memorable. It will also allow for a nice conversation to be struck up about all the wonderful things you two will be doing as a COUPLE TOGETHER AWW!!! It also is a great icebreaker, so things won't be weird when you first see each other!

    By stillcute8605, Fayetteville, Arkansas, United States

  • How to help a long distance relationship jump over the hurdles?

    They say "Absence makes the heart grow fonder", but anyone who is or has been in a long distance relationship knows the key to success is more than just absence. Long distance relationships are built on loyalty, trust, and respect. While these relationships sometimes are misunderstood by those who are not involved, the couple who is committed to making it work knows that the challenges posed by distance can become strengths in the relationship. Long distance is not for every couple, but for those who know they have found their soul mates, a few thousand miles cannot keep love from growing and blooming into a beautiful relationship.

    The following tips can help a long distance relationship jump over the hurdles and make it to the finish line - when both members of the couple are in the same city for good:

    Make a game plan: When a long distance relationship is beginning to form, it is important for both members to determine what they want to do for the short and long terms. As with all good relationships, it's important to remember to make each person comfortable with the plan and to allow for give and take as the relationship evolves.

    Communication is key: let the other person know how much you miss them and love them. With thousands of miles in between you and your beloved, it's easy to become insecure, so try to nip that in the bud. Make the person know how much you care by telling them how much you love and miss them every time you speak.

    By SanDiegoBabe, California, United States

  • How to make an intercontinental relationship successful?

    Normally, I'd advise against intercontinental relationships. Long distance can be very trying. However, some find love overseas. Here's some tips on coping with LD dating. Make sure that your significant other is from a country within the same continent as your country - This will ensure cheaper travel. If you're both living on the same continent, you should take turns visiting each other for extended periods of time, perhaps a whole month each season. (For example, you could spend 1 month in the summer with them, and then they can spend 1 month in the fall with you!) I suggest spending at least a month in each others countries to better connect. This will allow your relationship to grow and give you ample opportunity to see if it'll work out. Don't forget to save a portion of money each week in a separate account to pay for your ticket, food and entertainment. Try to keep plenty of spending money saved for yourself as well. Relying on a new partner might not always be ideal. If you're both living oceans apart, try to meet for one month each during one of the four seasons, making sure to each take turns visiting each other and keep plenty of money saved. To help save money, the both of you should install Skype so all communications can be free! You'll also get to video chat for free so you can make sure that they're the person they say they are.

    By LORDDREAD, Lancashire England, United Kingdom

  • How to make long distance dating work for you

    If you really want to be with a person that is not in the same state as you these are some hints on how to make it work for you. First you have to have complete trust in your partner. Second you must set aside some time to have a conversation with them. Third and most important you must have plans to see each other in the future and carry out those plans.

    By jaylen25, Illinois, United States

  • How to make long distant meeting work?

    If you plan on moving to another state for some one, or some one is moving for you do not be shy to ask for all personal information. Please check it with law enforcement. If the person does not want to disclose his or her information then that's something to think about. If they are not willing to be completely honest with you then they really do not see a future with you at all. My experience shows this tip very well: Two years ago I had thought I met the man of my dreams. 29 black hair blue eyes, punk rocker. I thought he was sweet and caring. That we would always be together. After only two months of dating I moved to Chicago. I never really asked about his past, which was a mistake. He ended up being married he had a record for domestic abuse. he was controlling. I never thought to ask for his information and check with a local police station. It's my fault. So please take care of this in long distance dating.

    By tat2bbw, Washington, United States.

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