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  • As soon as you feel as if your relationship is no longer working out

    As soon as you feel as if your relationship is no longer working out, it's best to either talk it out with your partner or end it as soon as possible. Continuing to be with someone you after you've decided you're unhappy will lead to you resenting your partner or them resenting you. Its also understood that when you still care about the person you mean to break up with, it's even more difficult to end it knowing you're going to hurt them,but a clean and clear "I'm sorry this isn't working for me." will be better for the both of you in the long run.

    By AngelHope, Los Angeles, California, United States

  • Before you reject someone, maybe give them a second chance

    After one date, if they don't call back, don't take it personally. They don't know you. It's hard because even if you think the date went great, they still don't know you. Move on, and let it go.

    Before you reject someone, maybe give them a second chance. Sometimes the second date can be fantastic even with someone you thought you had no chemistry with.

    By 70moviefan, Arizona, United States

  • Follow the Golden Rule

    When rejecting or ending a relationship, it's important to do so in a manner that is consistent with how you would like to be treated. If rejecting an email, write it as if you were writing to yourself. Be polite. Before you hit "send", read the email as if you were the one receiving it.

    If you're ending the relationship, be truthful with yourself and the other person. You may be hurting the person you're breaking up with, but it is better to be open. Don't drag out an unfit relationship in the hopes that the other person will end it. Neither party will benefit from this approach and you will retain your dignity by being honest.

    By 27MaryAnn, Illinois, United States

  • If you can't handle face-to-face ending of a relationship, at least do it by a call.

    Always be respectful in how you reject or end a relationship

    Rejecting: Rejecting someone is never easy and should be handled with grace and respect for the other persons' feelings. A simple "No thank you" and "Wish you good luck" should make things easy.

    Ending: Ending a relationship should be handled with care & respect. Because we all have feelings. A simple "I don't think this is working for whatever reason" will make a difference. In person, if you can't handle face-to-face ending of a relationship, at least do it by a call (not the best option, but it is a lot better than ghosting).

    By Ziggy45, Victoria, Australia

  • Keep it simple, short and sweet!

    When the time comes to say goodbye to someone and you have to end the relationship, keeping it simple is the best way to go. Be sure to use "I" statements such as, "I need to take some time on my own to identify my needs", or "I don't feel like this is moving forward due to our differences" as these types of statements will not put the other person on the defensive. Keep it simple, short and sweet. Wish the other person well to end things on a positive note and then walk away. Remember that everyone has feelings, even if they don't always show them, so don't be surprised to hear from the person you're ending the relationship with within a day or two, even if they have little or no reaction at the time. They will likely have questions for you now that reality has set in. Keep your answers clear and simple and consistent. Hopefully that will be the end of communication between the two of you and you can both move on.

    By blueidblond7, Ontario, Canada

  • Let potential matches know quickly if they don't get you going

    Not everyone you come in contact with is meant to be a part of your life longer than they have. In your lifetime you will meet tens, if not hundreds, of interested people because you are unique. If the first date goes less than stellar, it is probably a sign that the relationship should not continue.

    If you find that the person online doesn't get you going in person, letting them down easy is the best, most classy way to go. Simply tell them at the end of the date, by phone, or text (since this isn't a committed relationship yet) that you appreciated their company and don't want to lead them on. Thank them for joining you and wish them luck on their such since your chemistry just didn't line up.

    It hurts giving and receiving the message, but it is better to nip it in the bud than to lead them on because you're uncomfortable letting them in on the truth.

    By BrwnBombshell, Nebraska, United States

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