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Posted on Jun 19, 2011 at 08:32 PM

I recently asked several friends where the good guys were.....it was agreed they are either married, or dead! If one encounters a good guy, seems like it doesn't last and that discourages me a lot. Loosing someone hurts but what really hurts more is not knowing if the guy really misses you or not or if he meant what all he said to you. Sometimes loving is one sided so it seems, meaning one is the giver most of the time and the other is the taker. That was so with my friend who is still devastated over loosing her so called boyfriend from this site(Yes, and Mr. D, you know who you are)....I might add you messed up my friend, big time, as you have no idea what you lost. Ladies like her are far and few between. None in our group come close to her, as I wouldn't put up with all the crap men deal out on these sites. Right away they say they love you, then they promise all these things,sweet talking............are some of you guys desperate? Can some please be normal, down to earth, considerate and tell the truth?

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Posted on Jun 12, 2016 at 02:13 PM

Hope springs eternal.


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Posted on Jun 01, 2012 at 08:48 PM

Hi everyone!! I'm back visiting Sewingwild again this evening and decided to write a few comments concerning the original blog she started. Tomorrow will be a year since I had a conversation with whom I felt was the last love of my life. I still think of him daily and wonder about him. You know, I was at the point of selling my business, retiring, and going to him. It seemed like the thing to do to be with him no matter where he might travel as he had a few years yet to retire. Then the bomb hit.....he asked me for money and our little ladies group had all talked about this time and time again. We vowed that we would try to keep a level head, use our brains, and not hand out money freely, which most of us couldn't anyway. All he would have had to do was prove himself to me, more than just talking or breaking promises. I can't help it, I still have a special place in my heart for him. I truly have tried to move forward, and something just won't let me....my heart. Now Sewingwild has met several fellows, and she said they had turned out to all be users and has explained some of the ways in her blogs. Our ladies group still meets, laugh and talk, and someone has something new to tell us everytime. I'm no longer on any of the dating sites but still enjoy hearing my friends experiences. I do wish you all luck on this site, but just be careful and meet the person you are talking to before you fall in love like I did.


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Posted on May 24, 2012 at 07:29 PM

You are so right PaulBetta 


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Posted on Apr 22, 2012 at 02:06 PM

hello

some of us arentdesperate, we want the real  love of our lives,,nice guys finish last dont u know


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Posted on Apr 22, 2012 at 01:06 PM

the so call good guys are r useally left behind ,i am country boy ,guys like us dont exist any more ,we treat r ladies as ladies ,love them ,and try to spoil the crapt out of them ,good guys in last ,,


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Posted on Jan 21, 2012 at 06:48 PM

I can!


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Posted on Dec 29, 2011 at 12:46 PM

They are desperate....for you know what!! Just sayin'

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Posted on Oct 17, 2011 at 08:52 PM

Girls, if the guy you meet online doesn't have his act totally together at this stage of  life(50 and over), PLEASE go on to the next guy.  He isn't going to be THE one. 

sure he will have excuses, well, don't buy them.   If he doesn't have a job.... a good one....or is retired, doesn't have a nice place to live without roommates, cannot take you to a nice place and pick up the check, has no plan in life but to drink beer and watch football on sundays, but talks a good game....like my ship is coming in next month witha million dollar check or I just got out of jail but I am a great Christian....OPEN YOUR EYES AND LISTEN TO YOUR FRIENDS, who probably already told  you about the red flags.  and yes there are exceptions, except that I never saw one.....you get what you deserve in life...most of the time.  But main thing I see that goes wrong on these sites, everyone is in a hurry to find true love.  the odds of that are very small, so slow down and get to know someone before you get serious.


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Posted on Sep 19, 2011 at 08:10 AM

I'm back.....lolol.....wanted to tell you one of the lady friends in our group did find someone special on a dating site. They have met and it was love right away and they are now together!! It was like a fairy tale romance. My other friend whom I had wrote the blogs about and who was in love with her online guy still loves him...can you believe that? She said it has been almost 4 months since they parted ways and only one email in between. She said there isn't a day that goes by that she doesn't think about him. I just wish someone would walk into her life and prove to her she is special and they would hit it off. I've often wondered if he would even know her if he contacted her again accidently as these scammers probably go through talking to so many women, they have to have a file system to keep their stories straight....lolol. Anyway ladies and gents....I guess you still have to keep hunting that someone special. I am, and it isn't working...AT ALL.

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Posted on Sep 06, 2011 at 10:57 AM

well if the sight is so disheartening then why do we do it

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Posted on Aug 18, 2011 at 10:12 AM

If he had a finacial situation he wanted you to help with he was scamming you from the beginning.  It is one of the most commom Online dating scams.  Quit mourning him and count yourself lucky you didn't lose eferythig you have.


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Posted on Jul 26, 2011 at 07:33 PM

Well, hello.....I'm the friend who Sewingwild has talked about on here. I'm visiting her this evening and she let me get on with her name to check out the blogs. Yes, I am still hung up as they say on the one special guy I met online here a few months ago. I guess I'm old fashioned in a way, as I always felt giving your love to someone was special and permanent. Oh, the fellow I talked with was such a charmer, but he was a sincere gentleman. There were way too many red flags 2/3 the way through our online relationship, but I shrugged them aside hoping to give my sweetie the benefit of the doubt, but it didn't work out. You know, I'm still not mad at him and actually I would still like to meet him, but figure it isn't possible, as don't think he will let it happen. I feel like a wounded puppy, and I still haven't picked up the pieces of my heart, but I know I have to go on. I have tried another site, but it just isn't working for me as I can't get interested in anyone. I go many places, still work and keep very busy, go to church, and stay active...but I still catch myself taking a cry on the way home. I catch myself scanning the crowds wherever I go as just maybe I will see him. I want to be happy again and make someone else happy and I pray this will someday be possible. I sent him cards that were returned, tried to have flowers delivered to his mother for Mother's Day but she couldn't be found, sent him a package with actually something special inside that he will never know about and it was returned five weeks later unclaimed but still complete. There were other things I tried to do with no luck. Just another note....I could not help this guy with a financial problem he had....I probably would have if I could have, but just couldn't....and I was shifted aside with the remark that I didn't trust him, and without trust there was no love. No no....I actually did trust him and I still feel I love him, but the feeling apparently wasn't mutual. I'd almost give anything if he had been the real thing besides someone I never met sitting at a computer. As you know, anyone can be whatever they want, whomever they want, live wherever, on the computer. Take care ladies your heart is at risk!!

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Posted on Jul 05, 2011 at 05:08 PM

Hi everyone again! I'm not as mad as previously, but wanted to share some recent experiences of mine online. I have met five different guys on here or other sites who all seemed wonderful at first, and turned out to be guys who just wanted money to get them out of their problems. My friend joined another site only to be deceived again this week. I feel so sorry for her, but she has learned a valuable lesson so she says. She says she is actually still sweet on one certain guy whom she talked with for 3 months and won't let herself get interested in anyone else. How can I help her? Has anyone heard of men being so deceived by women?

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Posted on Jun 24, 2011 at 02:35 PM

Bless you Jean2011....you said it so well and much more tactful than I, and thank you. It makes me feel bad for my friend as she still loves the guy she met on this site. She is such a sweet lady, and I just hated to see her hurt. Thank you again. I will tell her what you said.

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Posted on Jun 22, 2011 at 10:50 AM

Alot of ladies on these type of sites are widows or divorced. Most of us have been with our spouses or partners for the better part of our lives. Way back when, when most of us were courting or dating the guidelines or rules were quite different, the men were raised to conduct themselves as gentlemen and we as ladies were raised to conduct ourselves as young ladies. The fellows picked you up and took you to a sock hop, picture show, church pinic or some other type of social gathering. As time progressed couples held hands, later perhaps a brief peck/kiss on the cheek; as time marched on so and so forth. My point is we took time to get to know one another, a friendship was developed a bond established & mutual respect. In todays society people leap into a relationship before they begin to even know the real person their dealing with. There is no friendship foundation, much less anything else of substance. Listen!!! "Everyone!"... Men as well as Women! We all put our best foot forward when we are trying to get to know one another, some of us are genuine and then there are those with a shady side. That's why we as ladies should remember our core values; always be the young lady/woman your parents raised you to be. Don't leap before you look remember give it a few months get to know the person if he is truly a gentleman; he is sincere he will gladly wait! Ladies if he is truly the man for you he too will enjoy the two of you taking the proper time to get to know one another. True love & romance isn't something rushed into blindly it is savored. Don't give up there are alot of normal, down to earth, considerate, honest and living available men out there when you least expect it he'll find you. God Bless!!!

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