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Posted on May 12, 2010 at 10:08 PM

There is a section on this website that all of you should check out.  It's about online dating and safety. I was just contacted by a so called "member" and immediately knew that he was a scammer.  There is a whole cache of them on the internet.

Here's the scoop.  These guys generally operate out of Nigeria but can come from anywhere. Their English is usually bad. They use phrases like "am ready to do so and so" rather than I am. Their spelling is atrocious ("are" is spelled "re"). They generally try to get you off the site and on to Yahoo Messenger.  Not a good idea. It's better to stay on the site you are paying for (but if you do Yahoo Messenger or some of the other popular sites, know that you can create an "alias" and hide your profile. Yes you will have to read the instructions).

Here's more:  They generally have some tragedy in their lives. The last guy that contacted me was divorced and had a daughter who had recently died. He was "just getting over the tragedy." I told him that his situation was "interesting" rather than offer sympathy.

They also like to feel you out to see if you are lonely. Questions like "do you live alone?" Or "You must be lonely by yourself." Crap. Most of us want someone special in our lives or we wouldn't pay to be on the site on the first place.

Once you start to converse, the pace quickens. They come up with another grand tragedy that requires travel overseas.  One guy (independent oil contractor) told me that he had to take his son with him to Nigeria (his wife died in a car accident) because he was homeschooling him. Then he got stuck in Nigeria and needed to bring the kid back to live with me. Then he didn't have enough money for his "oil contract" to go through. He was short just $500.00. Excuse me?

"HELL NO!!!," was my answer.  Never give out any information about your finances. EVER!!! Or at least until you've met the person, claimed the chemistry, and on your way to a good healthy relationship.

I could go on an on about scammers.  I really hate them and I hate that they have infiltrated social dating sites. However, I do believe that you can still form special relationships online (and they are not all about finding a date and sex). You just have to be careful and not wear your heart on your sleeve. Ask good questions and NEVER EVER GIVE OUT INFORMATION ABOUT YOUR FINANCES.

What's really important is that you understand that scammers are in the business of making money. And they will happily take yours to their bank.

Be safe!


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Posted on Aug 25, 2018 at 05:55 PM

I was just scammed. But never gave money. I traced down the owner of the pictures. A very prominent Dr. He is handling it now. The best thing to do id to ask, if their picture has been verified. Its make it safer.


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Posted on Oct 14, 2013 at 09:03 PM

Why doesn't this site urge more of the men to be validated??



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Posted on Dec 01, 2010 at 01:03 AM

Excellent response sandy98400! What a kick! Blessings in light, White Wolf

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Posted on Nov 27, 2010 at 08:47 PM

Scammers are con artist that think all people are dumb. they start out acting or talking like they have known you for years or you are the person they have allways dreamed of. You are their last hope. They have fallen on hard times and need you to rescue them -- all this is before you even have a chance to " get to know them", they need money and they promise you anything and everything if you will send it to them. Do not fall for any of it, they are only on these sights to find people that they can get money from and you would not believe the people that fall for these lies. If a bumb asked you for $500 saying he would pay you back, you wouldn't give it to him,put that bumb in a suit and tie with a pretty face and nice voice and see how your thoughts change, these are scammers !!!!!!!!!!!

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Posted on Nov 13, 2010 at 06:29 AM

Yes...and the "young" girls who are interested in "MONEY" only........please!!!! I wasn't born yesterday.

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Posted on Nov 13, 2010 at 06:27 AM

Paint White Horse, you're correct of course. You do have to be very persistent with your pointed questions. Good for you for recognizing that!

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Posted on Sep 03, 2010 at 05:24 AM

The stories are all the same on dating sites from scammers! I had a child, maybe 15, from Nigeria pretending he was an adult! He finally showed himself on web cam....because I would not leave HIM alone (lmao).

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Posted on Aug 18, 2010 at 10:38 AM

Thanks Ladies for the info. about Scamers 


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Posted on Aug 08, 2010 at 07:42 PM

How is these two scammers? Evan Squires and James Modesitt. Evan is and engineer 'working' in Lagos on a oil pipeline. He has the contract which is worth a lt of money. His 14 year old daughter, Cheryl Squires who 'lives' in Manchester Uk even emailed me and called me mom. I didn't sent her my email address at all and it should not have been passed on the 'his daughter' His wife Patricia died in a car accident when she was 2 years oldBoth his parents are dead. BEWARE!This same person is James...he 'lives' in Petersburg West Virginia, 51, Civil Engineer who travels. He has a child which he never mentions because he has forgotten about his child and wants to 'start a family'. He comes on REALLY strong. BEWARE ladies...scammers. This is heartbreaking and even though I'm now aware, I am very wary of guys in general.

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Posted on Aug 06, 2010 at 07:10 AM

What I like to do is go along with them. Make them work to get me to the point where i am willing to send the money then I agree and send the money.... What, you didn't get it? Verify their info and then agree to resend it.. tie them up.. waste THEIR time! By the way guys, these very young women who all like older men are most likely guys... ROFL I wont always string them along but If I'm bored I will. I can cause them to waste a huge amount of time. "OMG you're in [City1]? I'm so so sorry sweetheart... I sent it to [City2 with similar spelling]. :( " or say: "My bank doesn't have an agreement with a bank in a city any closer" Then take a day going back and forth with them until you arrange with the bank or western union for them to pick it up 200-300 miles away from where they are, and when its not there either: "Oh no.. they say they never heard of me? well thats possible because I never sent any money to you - because well, you see darling, im not as stupid as you are....." It's usually a few days before I see the same opening letter again... i think they all use the same stuff. :)

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Posted on Jul 20, 2010 at 07:01 PM

i had an experience with a scammer on another, supposedly secure website, but still keep trying..i have learned to smell a scammer a mile away...and unfortunately, those experiences have pushed a couple of probably nice, real men away...i just am having a difficult time believing anyone at this point.  by the way, i reported the gentleman to the site, even went as far as reporting him to the nigerian police...i feel badly for the man whose picture he was using..should he ever try to date on a website he may be overwhelmed with angry women...do you remember any other details of the "gentleman" from England? of course, he will have a new name and picture, but the scenario will more than likely be almost the same...and I love you and want the world for us...all you need to do is trust me baby...will follow soon..i even found a couple of websites where they find their love letters that they send...and poems...when i confronted the guy, he of course was "offended" that I would think he would ever do anything like that!!!! Man, karma always comes back to haunt you.  Good luck on dating...I may be giving up...


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Posted on Jul 11, 2010 at 02:22 AM

I agree with what is being said here - the if'I love you' crap is unbeleivable. Recently I fired right back at one fellow - if it was a fellow - and he came back at me with the 'hurt' bit....this one 'lived' in England, wife killed in car accident and kids live with Grandma and he travels the world with work - I 'played' with 'him' for a while - than blocked - not even amusing anymor. cheers Megs

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Posted on Jul 08, 2010 at 06:18 PM

 

this guy sounds like the one who wanted to "save me from the world" only he was some kind of mechanical engineer who had his son with him following the death of his wife, mother and daughter in a car accident while on their way home from church.  He too had to make an emergency trip out of the country and would be returning to spend the holidays with me and meet my family....only when he was about ready to return he was in need of money...$1500 to start with and when I told him "no" he told me any amount would do...he then offered to put his airline ticket on my credit card so he could be back in time for the holidays...when I said "no" he then wanted me to give him my home address and allow his friend to send me a check which I could cash and then send the money western union to him...I let him know how incredibly smart I was and that this would not occur...I told him to discontinue any contact with me and actually emailed the police in Nigeria (like they cared).  Several weeks later he tried to contact me as he was concerned that I was "angry" with him.  He used the photo of some, more than likely, nice man who supposedly lived back East who was willing to relocate to be with me.  After more investigation, of course, there was no nice man named Tim who lived where he was supposed to have lived....learned my lesson..thank goodness..didn't cost me anything more than the limited membership...guess i will give it one more try...but am really alerted to scammers...too bad we can no longer trust humanity...the right person may come along....


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Posted on Jun 12, 2010 at 10:32 AM

I am living switzerland. daily i am receiving 3 to 4 lotteri companys sending e-mail you won a big amount of money and please contact our finance section. again they will ask to send the clearing or transfer cahrege 200$ via western union. there are lot of people got cheated. first came from spain. they took the telephone directry and are by area sending letters. very reasonly in nigieria some scamers get caught with pcs and laptop. but still coming................ other way using young girls fotos symply writing ........... hi i have seen your profile and the age is not problem please contact me with my e-mail.. i will send my pic............. how long they can cheat.........?

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Posted on Jun 08, 2010 at 11:00 AM

Gee, I LOvE the "sleeping on a park bench" response! I get "the African Scam" letters frequently in my regular email. Maybe I'll try this as a reply: "Thanks for your letter. I'm using the library computer cause it's free and I'm living in my car with my 8 year old grandchild whose mother is in jail for drugs and it's really hard to get a job with old clothes and could you send maybe $150 so I can clean up and get a job? I'd really love to meet you and find real love in this hard world."

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Posted on May 25, 2010 at 06:22 PM

Here, Here Toasted Self, a toast to you.  What is really freaky is that some women and men actually try to go back and contact the persons that scammed them. I'm like you, I was not born yesterday. Isn't this a senior site? Let me reiterate what you just said: DO NOT GIVE ANYONE YOUR MONEY OR YOU BANK INFORMATION!

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Girl56



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Posted on May 25, 2010 at 06:08 PM

WOW, I had no clue that disgusting scum like that existed on internet dating sites but I just experienced it and I am a believer.  I was just shocked!  Thank God my daddy raised a smart country girl and I was not so desparate as to buy into the widower and "my child is getting kicked out of his school in Africa where my sister is a missionary, becos of tuition I forgot to pay -- could you send $1,350 to the school and I will pay you back when I get in from off shore."  My response was:  don't you have a credit card, No, well how about your child's grandparents, dead or in nursing home, well call your banker in the morning and have them wire the money... And then the verbal assault started, you don't trust me, do it for us, etc.  Let me think:  No way, I am way to smart for that crap. 

Ladies and men, please be careful and take care of yourself -- NEVER SEND MONEY or give MONEY to anyone!


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Posted on May 25, 2010 at 11:21 AM

Good advice! How did you learn about the scammers in the first place?

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Posted on May 24, 2010 at 09:54 AM

Paintwhitehorse, that is so true.  I got pretty irritiated with "I love you", "you are so beautiful", blah, blah, blah. I'll end the stint with this site on June 8 and then I am off to play with my life. I would really like to meet someone but it's not worth it on these sites. I can find something more interesting to do with my time than entertain a$$holes who are after money that i don't have.  Best of luck to you though. I hope that you find the love of your life.

Best,

Girl56



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