Give it up ladies. Once you go pass 50 the supply of men becomes smaller and smaller and they know it. Overweight, unappealing men are sought after for the first time in their lives. Like it or not, them's the cards we are dealt with. You can get mad about but what's the point? All it makes you is a bitter woman who is sought out even less. I know I am better looking, more educated and pretty much more intelligent then 90% of the guys who reject me because I am over 60. Day by day my cats look more appealing. Learning to live without a man in my life after the death of my husband has become more preferable to the constant rejection I experience here. I'm only sorry I paid for 3 months on this site.
You are correct!!!!I am just beginning and felt my best after 50. It is ok with me if I find someone or not. I am content with being alone, but choose to find someone because; it is more fun in life sharing than being alone. You can get bored sometimes if you are alone too much. This is why I like to surround myself with happiness and I want ever be there!!
Good luck to ALL men/women on here...Hope you all find what you're looking for.
I just joined this site, today. I'm 48, and I've never been married. If I had a nickel for every time I was rejected, I could single-handedly retire the national debt, and have enough left over to to buy a happy eal at Mc Donalds! . . .but, seriously, I wish to extend my best to everyone for a safe, prosperous, and happy 2013, and beyond!
Do you know what would be an interesting experiment--kind of "Twilight Zone-ish?" (See, you'd have to be over 50 to really understand what I mean by that.) It would be interesting to have everyone over 50
who is on this site within, say, a 100 mile radius (pick your city and go 100 miles from there in all directions) living in the same city--no one else. Just the people from this site within this radius. Now, let's say they cannot go outside of that imaginary boundary, so the only people they can date or have some kind of relationship with are the people within that "city." I'd be willing to bet that they (and when I say "they," I mean "men") would find some of the most interesting, intelligent, capable, reliable, energetic, self-sufficient women on the face of the planet--all 50 or older! And, guess what, after a time of getting to know these women and watching how they live their lives with confidence, integrity and passion, suddenly those once-passed-over faces will become the most beautiful faces they've ever laid eyes on.
The men don't give us even half a chance. Why? Because they need to feel better about themselves and they need to be with women half their age so they can pretend they are half their age (or at least not as old as they really are). AND they will be the envy of their peers--who still have the same wife they married 30+ years ago. Naturally, when they all get together, the young woman has nothing in common with the wives of their peers and, of course, he has nothing in common with her young friends. I mean, what WOULD a man have in common with someone young enough to be his daughter?
My ex left me for a woman younger than my son. (23 years younger than I.) My daughters (and daughter-in-law) tell me that she just doesn't speak--either to them (closer to my daughters' and daughter-in-law's ages) or to my ex's sisters-in-law (my/his age). She is like a fish out of water--fits in in neither place. Awkward! So she just clings to him and never leaves his side. (The joke is, "Oh, I see she let him go to the bathroom by himself!")
I do understand that sex (the act) is a huge motivator, but like I always told my daughters, you better be able to have a good conversation with whomever you choose because, in the end, that is what you are left with because everything else diminishes with time. Now my ex is 56 and she is 36. Him on the downhill slope and she in her prime!
I have been on so many dating sites and it's always the same. I wish it was different, but it's not. I had some hopes (though minimal, at best) for this site, but as I read these threads, I am thinking it is just more of the same.
Hello all! Being new to this site, I have to throw my 2 cents in. I've been on several dating sites in the past year and you are all correct, to some degree. At age 69 I am finding the 'pool' diminishing. Lets face it, men generally die younger. My husband was 64. Being alone for 5 years was almost destroying me, so a year ago I started searching. I have found a small number of men who are OK with an older woman, 5 years plus or minus. I'm not sure I believe this, but I've been told we are more emotionally stable, less distracted, and free to do our 'thing', unlike many younger women. I think it's simply called maturity. I started out only looking at men my age or older, but quickly realized they were only interested in gals AT LEAST 10 years younger! It became apparent that many are looking for a 'nurse'. I've been there, done that! We have been put out to pasture, no longer useful. Guess what guys, many of us can give you a run for the money! So....I shall keep looking and one of these days I may get lucky. I wish that for all of us.
I just joined this website and was "window shopping". I agree that the men all think they are "hot". I went through and sent winks to some but not the ones that want only "slim, attractive, hot" women. I figure they love themselves so much they do not need a woman. I hope someone will be interested enough to contact me.
I think you lovely ladies should also take into consideration that an awful lot of younger woman that have had awful felationships with younger men that wont work, drink or do drugs all day and live off them are moving on to more mature men,,,who treat them like they want to be treated and the age trade off is of no concern to them,,,they, like us all just want to be loved and appreciated...just my two cents
Oh yes..men are all alike. There are quite a few men out there..but all these men that are old , fat, balding and still think they are so hot looking that they will not give a lady their age or older a chance..They think they have to have a lady at leat 10 years younger than they are. And if they do drop a line to us.it is more out of pity and maybe to make themselves feel better about their need to only date the younger ones..And they make comments.."oh if u only lived closer I would love to meet..(and they live only 10 miles away..gee what do they think? that we are as dumb as they are?)Yes I too have decided that men only look for the outer beauty and the funny thing is ..many of those will never find it,bc I have noticed the same men too still on the dating sites after 3-4 years..so if they really had it going on, they would have found that beauty they so think they deserve..and not need to continue to search..but they too will wake up one day and realize..that even the ladies their age are no longer interested in them..and as they say..what goes around comes around
Boy, do I know how you all feel! I've played around with dating sites and craigslist off and on for the past 2 years. Because my past experience has been with men my age or up to 6 years younger, I figure I'm young in appearance and attitudes.
Do I lower my age or take the chance that many guys will see the number and move on? OK, to attract them we have to be deceitful. Then we need to decide if and when to break the news. Darn! I'm an unfailingly honest person and this just gets my goat!
If a man met me in the store, say, he'd probably find me attractive and enthusiastic, never guessing my real age. In that situation, I'd figure he was already attracted and the numbers were no threat. But in this day and age we have no real choice but to post the year of our birth up front. Well, it sucks!
I as man would like to add something here I took care of a woman 54 who had MS and we went together for 5 years I loved her with all my heart and she loved me for being the kind of man any woman would want Her Family brain washed her and took her to Connecticut with her animals to get me out of her life and moved back there into I believe which will be an assisted living place with dementia patients She is not mentally challenged in any way She was brainwashed with promises of keeping her animals which she wont be able to do .All this was done on an early morning day and she was not even given the chance to say goodbye....Now I have to get on with my life and find someone and being 60 or over does not bother me a bit ..I think Im fairly good looking
and a genuine honest guy.. mvi18th ver basketball n
Wow, how scary are the comments in this forum!?
I'm 57 and have come out of what I thought was a wonderful marriage, until my husband traded me in for a younger woman ... This has shaken my confidence and trust a little, but I've had 3 years to realise that I'm a good woman with lots of life left to live. I have lots of supportive friends, and somewhere out there, there is a man like me, who wants to befriend a mature, honest equal, and maybe, just maybe, might be a match for life.
Are you out there?
I think that goes both ways, iam 51 and recently divorced.I find the dating sceen pure hell as i try to find some one at least close to being compatible but the best thing to do is stay positive....keep the faith ladies there are still suitible gentlemen out there
hi -first off im 58 and live in nyc..and no there is no one my age group in nyc! maybe a few in brooklyn but they are not even close to my type or age...
from reading the above...heres my take...
ITS WORSE than that..all the guys who actually put AM HOT in their looks category look either like old serial killers, overweight sheriffs of texas non rangers, or old jed from beverly hills tv...i mean i am in great shape, i look 10 yrs younger...not becuz im good, BUT BECUZ OF GENETICs ---...but i do not believe that i wold go with anyone younger than myself by more than 3 yrs and older than 2 due to the age range..
what i see are guys my age looking for women 20 yrs younger up to 10 yrs and they have no reason to feel so lucky...i am sorry i paid 3 mths as well, i am not even looking here anymore...its too depressing....