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Posted on Fri, Dec 03, 2010 07:45

I am a recent widow, and I joined the site because I don't like being alone, and was hoping I could meet some nice companions and see where things go from there.

 

 

I met one "real" person right away, who was a widower, and we had so many things in common it was amazing. He is a blind, semi-retired college professor.  I took a chance and went out to Michigan to meet him, and we had a wonderful 5-day visit. He continued to call me every day, and we were planning a fishing trip in FL this winter...and then things started to change, so I asked him where our relationship stood, and that was the end.  I was crushed, and still am, but felt it was a very postive learning experience.

 

 

 

It is very strange becoming "one" person as opposed to 1/2 of a couple. I am still learning who I really am.  

 

 

 

I also met another  friend on this web-site whom I had coffee with on my way down to my new "winter retreat" in Venice, FL.  We have enjoyed chatting for awhile, and had a good time visiting with each other.  He will, I think, remain a good friend to talk to and maybe occasionally hang out with.

 

 

 

As for others, I am finding the same thing as many other women on here, and it's very disappointing. The scammers are very active...wanting to go off-site right away, especially, and asking for addresses, etc.  Some of them are so attractive that it's hard to ignore them, but I am trying to be careful about what I do, especially since I am new to all this. I just think it stinks that these men would take advantage of single women, especially widows!! It really makes me angry!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So...so far I am staying on this site with the hopes that I WILL meet a nice, honest human being who really wants a relationship. Companionship is so important to human beings, and I miss it.  Let's see what happens.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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Posted on Thu, Jan 20, 2011 08:52

My heart goes out to you.   I know how difficult it is when you are alone.   I hope things got better since you wrote that blog....mine isn't that much better.



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Posted on Tue, Dec 14, 2010 09:51

To some degree, I agree with Happy, and it doesn't look like there is any surefire way to avoid it. Please note, men are just as subject to scammers. Fortunately, they are easy to spot and avoid, generally speaking. It seems they all take the same correspondent's course and have the same lines. Yes, the lines are getting better, but they still seem to follow the same old progression. If they don't respond to questions you ask them about your profile, the red flags should start to pop up. I've 'played' with scammers before, and eventually they will spring their trap and blow their cover. Be patient and cautious, and don't trust too easily. There are some GOOD PEOPLE out there, but only time and diligence will bring them to the forefront.


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Posted on Sun, Dec 12, 2010 16:16

Hello, Wanted to to say hello and glad you found my blog ;-) Yes there are some very strange people on these types of websites; have been doing this along time since the inception of the internet and really hasn't changed much, if anything, people are more direct in their approach on trying to meet you either in other sites or in person and that's where alot of yung people are getting hooked; I know of a teen who has and the guy is being pursued by law enforcement by the parents; Anyway, looks like we have alot in common and thought we could pen each other from time to time, am planning to write in my blog daily, sort of an ongoing journal; you are welcome to share and invite others you know to join in; we might just indirectly meet some nice, caring people who would like to take up in conversation; So stay in touch, LouElle


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Posted on Wed, Dec 08, 2010 06:18

TRUST YOUR INTUITION!!!  These are all versions of the same creepy bit of nastiness known as a scammer.  These guys are not real people.  They are simply using whatever lures they can (attractive pictures, sad stories about losing their spouse, dependent children, etc. etc) to draw an unsuspecting person into some kind of relationship.  They are hoping to find a lonely person, desperate for company and attention, who they can eventually bamboozle into sending money for some ridiculous reason (usually their child is suddenly gravely ill).   Do not be fooled by the handsome pictures ... flowery language....impressive credentials .... amazing incomes... that are posted.  Really, would such a person need to be on a dating site??  Report these imposters to the website.  If they are not legit, they will be removed. 



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Posted on Fri, Dec 03, 2010 11:48

I am wondering if anyone else is experiencing what I am experiencing - strange emails.  The first strange one responded to nothing in my profile, a picture that was to die for, then a picture sent to my email of he and his daughter - also model quality.  His email said things like born in France, educated in Oxford and have lived in Illinois for 30 years (I forget the name of the town).  I responded by suggesting the photos were glamour shots or was he a model.  He responded with an email that had an angry tone.  All of this an no reference to anything in my profile.  His emails were not porn but all about how he knew how to treat a women.  Of course he would mention that relocation was no problem.  One had the copy/paste code left in it because I googled it.  I regularly get hits that seem much the same but getting a little more sophisticated and mentioning some of my profile information but sounding somewhat the same written in broken English.  As they become more sophisticated, the pictures change - always a very handsome man.  The latest pictures a handsome man with a 3 year old adorable little girl and supposedly his wife and son were killed in a tragic car accident.  First email from him was very nice so I responded and got an email back right away similar to others.

I'd like to think I was wrong but my intuition says something isn't right.  I average about one a week.

 

 



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