Where are the true hearts of people? I have pondered all morning to say something here due to the recent moods of my friend who has been a member of the site. Just to get down to the actual question, why do some men deceive women so much on these sites regardless what dating site it is? I have known many who have had luck finding someone, but many just recently who feel they have been deceived by unfulfilled promises. What is such a coincidence is that ones I have talked with as well as my friend, all have seemed to encounter the same line and after a while, the words turn into men wanting money from the women because of love? Needless to say, my friend fell in love so deeply with someone she had never met...how stupid is that? She is trying to move on and can't as she told me she misses him so much she can hardly stand it. I sent her a blog from this site, and it tore her apart as she just knew it was meant for her, so again, now I upset her. My solution to this is this: 1. If you encounter someone whom is interesting, meet this person first before getting so involved. 2. Don't wear your feelings so near to your heart until you really really know this person. 3. Let your brain be your guide before your heart. 4. Don't be a sugar mama or sugar daddy for anyone! I would like to hear more from others on this subject. I'm trying to convince my friend to get back on this site and try again, so what good news from anyone could I give her? She is such a lady, true to the bone, sensitive,and basically a very happy person and would do anything she could for anyone if it were possible. I am a down home country girl who does what I want, when I want, and I don't let others sway me in anyway and I'm trying to talk sense into my friend. She is really hurt so can anyone please add information to this to help her? Any ideas? Our little club of single ladies haven't been able to do a thing with her. Thanks.
Where are the true hearts of people? I have pondered all morning to say something here due to the recent moods of my friend who has been a member of the site. Just to get down to the actual question, why do some men deceive women so much on these sites regardless what dating site it is? I have known many who have had luck finding someone, but many just recently who feel they have been deceived by unfulfilled promises. What is such a coincidence is that ones I have talked with as well as my friend, all have seemed to encounter the same line and after a while, the words turn into men wanting money from the women because of love? Needless to say, my friend fell in love so deeply with someone she had never met...how stupid is that? She is trying to move on and can't as she told me she misses him so much she can hardly stand it. I sent her a blog from this site, and it tore her apart as she just knew it was meant for her, so again, now I upset her. My solution to this is this: 1. If you encounter someone whom is interesting, meet this person first before getting so involved. 2. Don't wear your feelings so near to your heart until you really really know this person. 3. Let your brain be your guide before your heart. 4. Don't be a sugar mama or sugar daddy for anyone! I would like to hear more from others on this subject. I'm trying to convince my friend to get back on this site and try again, so what good news from anyone could I give her? She is such a lady, true to the bone, sensitive,and basically a very happy person and would do anything she could for anyone if it were possible. I am a down home country girl who does what I want, when I want, and I don't let others sway me in anyway and I'm trying to talk sense into my friend. She is really hurt so can anyone please add information to this to help her? Any ideas? Our little club of single ladies haven't been able to do a thing with her. Thanks.
Unfortunately she will be hurting because she fell in love. The best you can do for her is let her vent when she needs to talk and it is great that she has a group of friends that care for her. I myself join this site because my daughter thought it was time for me to make a move and get out of my comfort zone, so I joined against my better judgement. I can truly say I sent out winks and emails to those that I thought were near by which made it possible to meet. As it turned out I have received winks from guys in New York and I am in Virginia, all younger and all willing to relocate, oh yes even a older well dress man from the photo of himself who is willing to relocate. Red Flag, Red Flag, I did not waste my time applying even though I am lonely and would like to meet someone and become a couple. But like you, I will go it alone rather than be a sugar momma or worst yet get involved with the likes of those guys who are playing woman for what they can get out of them. I corrospond with two men and after awhile the one admitted it was fun but he is not about to get involved at his age but it give him something to look forward to but never takes it to the meeting stage. Tell your friend to go on this site and review how many times the guy replys to others, it gives you that option and also for peace of mind, why not ask him for money and perhaps she will find out once and for all that he is nothing more than a man cheating leach, she must promise herself to meet first and not be so quick to respond to their demands. I wish her all the best and you too for being supportive when she needs you most. Butterfly777
Unfortunately she will be hurting because she fell in love. The best you can do for her is let her vent when she needs to talk and it is great that she has a group of friends that care for her. I myself join this site because my daughter thought it was time for me to make a move and get out of my comfort zone, so I joined against my better judgement. I can truly say I sent out winks and emails to those that I thought were near by which made it possible to meet. As it turned out I have received winks from guys in New York and I am in Virginia, all younger and all willing to relocate, oh yes even a older well dress man from the photo of himself who is willing to relocate. Red Flag, Red Flag, I did not waste my time applying even though I am lonely and would like to meet someone and become a couple. But like you, I will go it alone rather than be a sugar momma or worst yet get involved with the likes of those guys who are playing woman for what they can get out of them. I corrospond with two men and after awhile the one admitted it was fun but he is not about to get involved at his age but it give him something to look forward to but never takes it to the meeting stage. Tell your friend to go on this site and review how many times the guy replys to others, it gives you that option and also for peace of mind, why not ask him for money and perhaps she will find out once and for all that he is nothing more than a man cheating leach, she must promise herself to meet first and not be so quick to respond to their demands. I wish her all the best and you too for being supportive when she needs you most. Butterfly777
Thank all of you for giving very nice advice for my friend. Smilingspirit, my friend is moving on, but not with someone online and not even with another guy...she is just keeping very busy, and has now accepted that if the guy had really loved her like he said, he would have stayed with her regardless instead of abandoning her because she didn't come up with some money. You know, she hadn't met him so why would she give him anything? I sure as heck wouldn't have either! At least in that situation she used her brain instead of her heart. She recently told me she learned a valuable lesson...that she was ready to give her heart again to the right person...plus he taught her what to watch for and she has actually run into 4 other men online who have tried to scam money out of her...and oh she is on to those lines....lolol. Janette...there are certainly fakers out there and a lot of them. Too bad these sites don't check into these profiles further. I have actually found one guy three times with the same picture and three different profiles. Didn't do any good to report it as they wouldn't do anything and thats sad. These sites all have way too many scammers.
Thank all of you for giving very nice advice for my friend. Smilingspirit, my friend is moving on, but not with someone online and not even with another guy...she is just keeping very busy, and has now accepted that if the guy had really loved her like he said, he would have stayed with her regardless instead of abandoning her because she didn't come up with some money. You know, she hadn't met him so why would she give him anything? I sure as heck wouldn't have either! At least in that situation she used her brain instead of her heart. She recently told me she learned a valuable lesson...that she was ready to give her heart again to the right person...plus he taught her what to watch for and she has actually run into 4 other men online who have tried to scam money out of her...and oh she is on to those lines....lolol. Janette...there are certainly fakers out there and a lot of them. Too bad these sites don't check into these profiles further. I have actually found one guy three times with the same picture and three different profiles. Didn't do any good to report it as they wouldn't do anything and thats sad. These sites all have way too many scammers.
This is a reply to Sewingwild regrding her girlfriend who is hurt. It sounds to me like your friend should take some time out for herself. Do some soul searching and get down to the real reason she is so hurt over someone so quickly. Maybe she was abandoned in some way and so now she grasps and latches on to people with a desperation that will only hurt her in the end. Tell her to look inside herself for strength. It's there, She just has to be willing to do the work it takes to dig it up and dust it off and use it.
Of course I don't know the whole situation & have only read a few of the posts on the matter, but she is the one who must ultimately believe that she is strong. She may have too many enablers. People who mean and want the best for her but by all the support they give it only winds up enabling her to continue being the victim and weak. She must learn that ultimately she MUST swallow the bitter pill and move on. Another door is just waiting for her to open it and who knows...there could be someone wonderful there waiting for her...but keep in mind it could be a mr creep too.
Tell her to gather her strength and take time to work on her self -- her mind, spirit, and body. Concentrate on being the best HER she can be for HERSELF. Put aside the search for a while. Take a breather and know that God sees what is going on. He has allowed that hurtful person out of her life which she should be grateful for. God has a plan for us all. We may not see what it is but take comfort in knowing that all is working toward the good for us. At this very moment he is working out your problems. So tell her God loves her. I love her and wish her peace & everything that is good.
This is a reply to Sewingwild regrding her girlfriend who is hurt. It sounds to me like your friend should take some time out for herself. Do some soul searching and get down to the real reason she is so hurt over someone so quickly. Maybe she was abandoned in some way and so now she grasps and latches on to people with a desperation that will only hurt her in the end. Tell her to look inside herself for strength. It's there, She just has to be willing to do the work it takes to dig it up and dust it off and use it.
Of course I don't know the whole situation & have only read a few of the posts on the matter, but she is the one who must ultimately believe that she is strong. She may have too many enablers. People who mean and want the best for her but by all the support they give it only winds up enabling her to continue being the victim and weak. She must learn that ultimately she MUST swallow the bitter pill and move on. Another door is just waiting for her to open it and who knows...there could be someone wonderful there waiting for her...but keep in mind it could be a mr creep too.
Tell her to gather her strength and take time to work on her self -- her mind, spirit, and body. Concentrate on being the best HER she can be for HERSELF. Put aside the search for a while. Take a breather and know that God sees what is going on. He has allowed that hurtful person out of her life which she should be grateful for. God has a plan for us all. We may not see what it is but take comfort in knowing that all is working toward the good for us. At this very moment he is working out your problems. So tell her God loves her. I love her and wish her peace & everything that is good.
You are so right!!! I also met a man who led me on , but fortunately I saw through his sceme. He asked for money and had a hard luck story. I told him I think you prey on lonely women ! Haven't heard from him since! His name for this site was " waiting for her " He claimed to have been robbed in a foreign country, that was the ruse. Yes there predators out there. I like to think there are more good guys than bad. Just haven't met him yet ! Tell your friend to not give up. Janette
You are so right!!! I also met a man who led me on , but fortunately I saw through his sceme. He asked for money and had a hard luck story. I told him I think you prey on lonely women ! Haven't heard from him since! His name for this site was " waiting for her " He claimed to have been robbed in a foreign country, that was the ruse. Yes there predators out there. I like to think there are more good guys than bad. Just haven't met him yet ! Tell your friend to not give up. Janette
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