I'm not an expert , not gonna be one. ... and I've never met one !! You ?? I'm just sharing my true experiences . Yes , it's hard to think one guy made so many mistakes , but I'll swear I did ! The three stooges rolled into one . Maybe they can help you ... maybe not . Either way, you're welcome to them and I'd like to hear your reactions , if you care to share them . Note: There are multiple pages of this blog ! It covers Dec 2010 to Jan 2012 experiences . Hope you enjoy !!!!!
I'm not an expert , not gonna be one. ... and I've never met one !! You ?? I'm just sharing my true experiences . Yes , it's hard to think one guy made so many mistakes , but I'll swear I did ! The three stooges rolled into one . Maybe they can help you ... maybe not . Either way, you're welcome to them and I'd like to hear your reactions , if you care to share them . Note: There are multiple pages of this blog ! It covers Dec 2010 to Jan 2012 experiences . Hope you enjoy !!!!!
Thanks for the insight to this dating game. will try to use your wisdom to avoid the pit falls. I have been in this about 3 weeks no dates yet. So I got to you just in time. Enjoyed your blog, thanks.
Thanks for the insight to this dating game. will try to use your wisdom to avoid the pit falls. I have been in this about 3 weeks no dates yet. So I got to you just in time. Enjoyed your blog, thanks.
What's the trick to this anyway? **** Actually there is a trick ...well , sort of . There is a blog you should check out ... SeniorMatch Members Q's & A's You are not the first man or woman to ask this question ... It is a numbers game ... more mail out , more mail in . It is also an "Early Bird" game .... get there before the rest of the world . Odds are , every attractive person you see and approach is also being seen by lots of other people . It is a competitive world . Here are some things to be considered ... Your profile .... Photos ...are there several that show you in your best light ? Self description ... Does it say what your best qualities are ? Doss it tell a story that says here is what life with me can be like "together" . Does it meet most or some of the "wants" her profile said she had ? It needs to be more than a recitation of facts ... "Talk" to the person with your profile . Searching ... where are you looking ? How often ? Are you seeking out the newest members each time ? Take some time ... Don't rush it , don't pressure , build step by step . Let them help set the pace . You have a lot to offer . Yes , "YOU" !! Make sure it is presented as an offer ... a good life "together" story . I can assure you , these are important matters to a partner . I strongly encourage to read then use the informaation . I wrote this , I lived this !! I can vouch that every line there is true . You will see that your concerns are shared by many others . You might find a thing or twothat really helps you . IT'S WORTH A SHOT !!!! I appreciate your questions and thank you for being areader . Try these ideas ... give me some feedback a little later .
What's the trick to this anyway? **** Actually there is a trick ...well , sort of . There is a blog you should check out ... SeniorMatch Members Q's & A's You are not the first man or woman to ask this question ... It is a numbers game ... more mail out , more mail in . It is also an "Early Bird" game .... get there before the rest of the world . Odds are , every attractive person you see and approach is also being seen by lots of other people . It is a competitive world . Here are some things to be considered ... Your profile .... Photos ...are there several that show you in your best light ? Self description ... Does it say what your best qualities are ? Doss it tell a story that says here is what life with me can be like "together" . Does it meet most or some of the "wants" her profile said she had ? It needs to be more than a recitation of facts ... "Talk" to the person with your profile . Searching ... where are you looking ? How often ? Are you seeking out the newest members each time ? Take some time ... Don't rush it , don't pressure , build step by step . Let them help set the pace . You have a lot to offer . Yes , "YOU" !! Make sure it is presented as an offer ... a good life "together" story . I can assure you , these are important matters to a partner . I strongly encourage to read then use the informaation . I wrote this , I lived this !! I can vouch that every line there is true . You will see that your concerns are shared by many others . You might find a thing or twothat really helps you . IT'S WORTH A SHOT !!!! I appreciate your questions and thank you for being areader . Try these ideas ... give me some feedback a little later .
Berrys and Chiggers There are some very good , honest and sincere people on the Internet that are truly looking for a good and sincere partner to share their life with ... and they find them .
I am a Southern boy . An old saying goes that ... You gotta wade through the weeds to get the berrys . You will !!! BUT , you're gonna get some chiggers too . It's definitely true .
You will find the chiggers ! But ... there are a lot of berrys here too . You deserve a great partner . There is one here for you
... don't let the chiggers deprive you of the happiness that you can find .
The magic words are Patience , Persistence and Progress .
My hero was Thomas Edison . He said ..."I've never had an experiment that failed . However , I have successfully identified many approaches that could not and did not work".
Stay the course and find the mate that you deserve . I know you can and will .
I hope I gave you a littleencouragement .
Berrys and Chiggers There are some very good , honest and sincere people on the Internet that are truly looking for a good and sincere partner to share their life with ... and they find them .
I am a Southern boy . An old saying goes that ... You gotta wade through the weeds to get the berrys . You will !!! BUT , you're gonna get some chiggers too . It's definitely true .
You will find the chiggers ! But ... there are a lot of berrys here too . You deserve a great partner . There is one here for you
... don't let the chiggers deprive you of the happiness that you can find .
The magic words are Patience , Persistence and Progress .
My hero was Thomas Edison . He said ..."I've never had an experiment that failed . However , I have successfully identified many approaches that could not and did not work".
Stay the course and find the mate that you deserve . I know you can and will .
Philosophy .... Hair-O-The-Dog One of these days I will learn ... maybe . Wearing your heart on your sleeve is not an easy way to live . It bruises easily , hurts a lot and heals slowly . The odd thing is ... It seems that only those you really care about can do serious damage . I choose to believe that the answer is not "NOT CARING" , but caring more . "Hair-O-The-Dog" philosophy .
Philosophy .... Hair-O-The-Dog One of these days I will learn ... maybe . Wearing your heart on your sleeve is not an easy way to live . It bruises easily , hurts a lot and heals slowly . The odd thing is ... It seems that only those you really care about can do serious damage . I choose to believe that the answer is not "NOT CARING" , but caring more . "Hair-O-The-Dog" philosophy .
Saddle up !!!! It's 2012 ... So ... didn't find Mr. / Ms. "Right" yet ?? Take a stroll down memory lane (2011) . Review who you approached ... where they were ... Age ... Education ... Interests ... etc , etc You got "some" responses ?? Review what you said to them in you emails ... Jot down what worked !!! What went wrong ?? Who put on the brakes , you -or-them ?? JOT IT DOWN !!!! Quoting Thomas Edison ... "Never had an experiment that failed ... many successfully identified methods that didn't work" !!!! NOW USE THIS INFORMATION !!!!! Let's not have an encore .... Patience , Persistence , Progress !!! By-The-Way .... This applies to me too !!!
Saddle up !!!! It's 2012 ... So ... didn't find Mr. / Ms. "Right" yet ?? Take a stroll down memory lane (2011) . Review who you approached ... where they were ... Age ... Education ... Interests ... etc , etc You got "some" responses ?? Review what you said to them in you emails ... Jot down what worked !!! What went wrong ?? Who put on the brakes , you -or-them ?? JOT IT DOWN !!!! Quoting Thomas Edison ... "Never had an experiment that failed ... many successfully identified methods that didn't work" !!!! NOW USE THIS INFORMATION !!!!! Let's not have an encore .... Patience , Persistence , Progress !!! By-The-Way .... This applies to me too !!!
Finances -and- Romances Boy oh Boy !!! Don't overlook this one .
Our society has long accepted Males as primary bread winners . Now the picture has drastically changed . Either or both partners might be major wage earners . Life styles are greatly dependent on the availability of money . You can't disregard this one without pain .
"PYA" might well mean protect your assetts now , before getting into relationships be sure ... you've got yours covered .
Finances -and- Romances Boy oh Boy !!! Don't overlook this one .
Our society has long accepted Males as primary bread winners . Now the picture has drastically changed . Either or both partners might be major wage earners . Life styles are greatly dependent on the availability of money . You can't disregard this one without pain .
"PYA" might well mean protect your assetts now , before getting into relationships be sure ... you've got yours covered .
Me , learning the ropes ?? Welll ... as best I can tell the most dangerous thing that a man can do to ruin a potential relationship is to be aggressive . In my case ... this is the supremem sin !! I can't seem to help just being me . Problem : not everyone has the same idea about what that is !!! These suggesstions might work ... Thanks her for the time , express joy with the meeting . Shake hands , let her decide if a hug or "small" kiss is wanted . Suggest that you hope you will get another chance to see her . Offer an idea that another "public" meeting would be nice . Leave in a timely , courteous way , don't hang on !!! This is my plan .... Now ... can I do it ??? I offer it only as an idea for your consideration . Got a better one ?? I'd love to hear it !!!
Me , learning the ropes ?? Welll ... as best I can tell the most dangerous thing that a man can do to ruin a potential relationship is to be aggressive . In my case ... this is the supremem sin !! I can't seem to help just being me . Problem : not everyone has the same idea about what that is !!! These suggesstions might work ... Thanks her for the time , express joy with the meeting . Shake hands , let her decide if a hug or "small" kiss is wanted . Suggest that you hope you will get another chance to see her . Offer an idea that another "public" meeting would be nice . Leave in a timely , courteous way , don't hang on !!! This is my plan .... Now ... can I do it ??? I offer it only as an idea for your consideration . Got a better one ?? I'd love to hear it !!!
Hey There, you sound so much like me. I am new to this also. seems as though the Ladies here from the BOOMER generation were raised on fairy tales and have not outgrown them, like "When you wish upon a Star, your dreams come True". How mis-fortunate for all of the older men of the boomer age. Nights in Shining Armor, Frog Princes, Romeo, Don Jaun, The Hero on a White Horse, all this is fairy tale stuff that resides in the back of the mind of most of the Boomer age ladies. None of them seem to realize that life is short and Life is what you make it. The older we get, the less we can enjoy it. It take a commitment to enjoy what remains of our fragile life, for all to soon it will all be over. We are not going to start out in a new relationship at this age with the same vigor and zest of youth, we would be lucky to fall in line with what we can and make the best of it, after all we have lived long and should have gained knowledge from previous errors. Lets get too it and quit "Dilly Dallying Around" with fairytale non-sense.
Hey There, you sound so much like me. I am new to this also. seems as though the Ladies here from the BOOMER generation were raised on fairy tales and have not outgrown them, like "When you wish upon a Star, your dreams come True". How mis-fortunate for all of the older men of the boomer age. Nights in Shining Armor, Frog Princes, Romeo, Don Jaun, The Hero on a White Horse, all this is fairy tale stuff that resides in the back of the mind of most of the Boomer age ladies. None of them seem to realize that life is short and Life is what you make it. The older we get, the less we can enjoy it. It take a commitment to enjoy what remains of our fragile life, for all to soon it will all be over. We are not going to start out in a new relationship at this age with the same vigor and zest of youth, we would be lucky to fall in line with what we can and make the best of it, after all we have lived long and should have gained knowledge from previous errors. Lets get too it and quit "Dilly Dallying Around" with fairytale non-sense.
ME ?? Intimidating ?? Don't think so !! Round midnight one evening I get a call ...
I need help !! No food money ! Grand child's sick ! Power is being turned off !! Nobody is willing to help . HELP !! So ... I go , I give , she seemed better , happier . Two weeks pass ........ Another call , same lady , same plea !!! So ... I go , I give , she seemed better , happier . Take her home ... bunch of young , able-bodied men sitting on porch . Two more weeks .... Another call !!! Same lady , same plea !! The light comes on !! A little late , BUT , comes on . I don't go , don't give ... she is not happy !! She demonstrates a sailor's vocabulary !! Me ?? Intimidating ...Don't think so !!!!!! Sucker , ?? maybe ... Intimidating NO !!!
ME ?? Intimidating ?? Don't think so !! Round midnight one evening I get a call ...
I need help !! No food money ! Grand child's sick ! Power is being turned off !! Nobody is willing to help . HELP !! So ... I go , I give , she seemed better , happier . Two weeks pass ........ Another call , same lady , same plea !!! So ... I go , I give , she seemed better , happier . Take her home ... bunch of young , able-bodied men sitting on porch . Two more weeks .... Another call !!! Same lady , same plea !! The light comes on !! A little late , BUT , comes on . I don't go , don't give ... she is not happy !! She demonstrates a sailor's vocabulary !! Me ?? Intimidating ...Don't think so !!!!!! Sucker , ?? maybe ... Intimidating NO !!!
Wellll ... I'm a movin !! Going back to Tennessee .... Very pretty Did what I came to Virginia to do Helped a kid out a little Expenses are MUCH lower , especially TAXES !! I can live a little better , breathe much easier ... Ya'll come !!
Wellll ... I'm a movin !! Going back to Tennessee .... Very pretty Did what I came to Virginia to do Helped a kid out a little Expenses are MUCH lower , especially TAXES !! I can live a little better , breathe much easier ... Ya'll come !!
Allowing abuse , Bad for the soul ... Ever get stood up ?? Well I did ... Not Fun !!! Once ... bad enough ! Twice , completely intolerable !!!! Some might think this is OK , they make a plan with you , Break it for another date ... Then ... behave like it's OK , just part of the game . Wrong !!!!!!!! Not OK . Self respect is a real necessity !! It gets communicated , somehow , to others ... It lifts you up -or- it's absense tears you down . DO NOT ALLOW THIS , You Deserve better !! Give it too !!!!
Allowing abuse , Bad for the soul ... Ever get stood up ?? Well I did ... Not Fun !!! Once ... bad enough ! Twice , completely intolerable !!!! Some might think this is OK , they make a plan with you , Break it for another date ... Then ... behave like it's OK , just part of the game . Wrong !!!!!!!! Not OK . Self respect is a real necessity !! It gets communicated , somehow , to others ... It lifts you up -or- it's absense tears you down . DO NOT ALLOW THIS , You Deserve better !! Give it too !!!!
Appreciation , humility and snobs and liars !!! Two things I cannot abide ... liars and snobs !!!! Some are the "cultured" variety ... conisouiers of art , literature music etc etc Some are the technically skilled variety ..... Mechanics , repair technicians , computer programmers etc , Some are both .... What ever you are , thank goodness you are there , doing your thing ... Who are we to look up , down or sideways ..... At others a little different in their makeup ?? Appreciate variety !! It makes the world go round !!!!
Appreciation , humility and snobs and liars !!! Two things I cannot abide ... liars and snobs !!!! Some are the "cultured" variety ... conisouiers of art , literature music etc etc Some are the technically skilled variety ..... Mechanics , repair technicians , computer programmers etc , Some are both .... What ever you are , thank goodness you are there , doing your thing ... Who are we to look up , down or sideways ..... At others a little different in their makeup ?? Appreciate variety !! It makes the world go round !!!!
Lord , Love a Duck in Size 13 Sneakers !!! There's me , ...There's a Duck and ...Lord , we both need love !!!!! Ever watch a Duck fishing ?? Those webbed feet are good for one thing , one only ... Getting to the right spot , swimming !!!! On land , they wadle , Ducks weren't meant to run . Fishing ?? Botoms up !!! Head down ... it's the "bill" that gets fish . ME , in younger days .... Ran like the wind !!! Got in the right place with them size 13's... Now , I keep tripping over em' . When I ain't tripping over em ' they wind up in my mouth !!! Unfortunately ... I'm the one that puts them there . Everytime I find a woman I really want .... here come the sneakers .... Then , inspite of experience , I open my big mouth !!! Bottoms up and "Bill" all clogged up !! Help Lord !!! Me and the Ducks ... We both need love !!!!!!!!
Lord , Love a Duck in Size 13 Sneakers !!! There's me , ...There's a Duck and ...Lord , we both need love !!!!! Ever watch a Duck fishing ?? Those webbed feet are good for one thing , one only ... Getting to the right spot , swimming !!!! On land , they wadle , Ducks weren't meant to run . Fishing ?? Botoms up !!! Head down ... it's the "bill" that gets fish . ME , in younger days .... Ran like the wind !!! Got in the right place with them size 13's... Now , I keep tripping over em' . When I ain't tripping over em ' they wind up in my mouth !!! Unfortunately ... I'm the one that puts them there . Everytime I find a woman I really want .... here come the sneakers .... Then , inspite of experience , I open my big mouth !!! Bottoms up and "Bill" all clogged up !! Help Lord !!! Me and the Ducks ... We both need love !!!!!!!!
Ways to win !!!! Three of my favorite people were General George Patton , General Omar Bradley .... and Admiral "Bull Halsey"
Three COMPLETELY opposite personalities ,
ALL , "Killers" in Combat !!
BUll ... famous for ... "Damn the torpedoes , full steam ahead" !!!
George loved to say .... RETREAT ??? "NEVER" !!! Occasionally , "ADVANCE TO THE REAR" !! Draw em in , surround em , then , CREMATE EM !!!! BUT ... Don't make a habit of it .
Omar said ... "Run !!" , Make em chase you ...WEAR THEM OUT !!! Then ,TURN Suddenly , and BLOW EM TO SMITHERENES.
All three tactics work !!!
GLAD to see you're in the fight !!!
Ways to win !!!! Three of my favorite people were General George Patton , General Omar Bradley .... and Admiral "Bull Halsey"
Three COMPLETELY opposite personalities ,
ALL , "Killers" in Combat !!
BUll ... famous for ... "Damn the torpedoes , full steam ahead" !!!
George loved to say .... RETREAT ??? "NEVER" !!! Occasionally , "ADVANCE TO THE REAR" !! Draw em in , surround em , then , CREMATE EM !!!! BUT ... Don't make a habit of it .
Omar said ... "Run !!" , Make em chase you ...WEAR THEM OUT !!! Then ,TURN Suddenly , and BLOW EM TO SMITHERENES.
Figured it out !!!! "Spiritual" ..... Well, "Spiritual" is exactly what I am !!!! Stubborn , Bull-Headed , Driven to a fault !!!!!! In other words , "SPIRITUAL" !!! Paraphrased .... I do pretty much what I want , when I want , , How I want !!! ... WHEN THE SPIRIT STRIKES ME !!!!!!!! "SPIRITUAL" "ME" ... to a "TEE" !!!!!!!!!!
Figured it out !!!! "Spiritual" ..... Well, "Spiritual" is exactly what I am !!!! Stubborn , Bull-Headed , Driven to a fault !!!!!! In other words , "SPIRITUAL" !!! Paraphrased .... I do pretty much what I want , when I want , , How I want !!! ... WHEN THE SPIRIT STRIKES ME !!!!!!!! "SPIRITUAL" "ME" ... to a "TEE" !!!!!!!!!!
Biology , Sociology , God and Dating !! I raised 4 boys and 1 girl .... with some help . Trust me ... I know a little on each of these 4 topics . -and- I know how they relate to each other ... a little bit. Ever tried to teach a little boy to use the bathroom ... standing up , I mean ? God has given each sex some amazing "tools" . Some work perfectly , If .. a lil bit un-predictably !! March up to the commode , ... stand close , whip it out , aim , FIRE !!! Water (yeller water) goes every where !!!!!! .. except where you aimed ! Sometimes in a split stream , to give "extra" coverage . Intended ?? NOoo , course not .... Reality ... YESIREE BOB !!! SOoo what ?? Well , we "mature men" have the same problem , but with "multipe tools" now . The worst ?? Our mouth !!!!!! We take care and pick our words meticulously ... Then , there they go -and- they can't be re-called. We aimed for ... lively , enthusiastic , complimentary , endearing , humorous and , oh yeah , "entertaining ". "SHE" hears ... bragging , implied sexual innuendo , insensitivity , in-sincerity , etc etc . Even , the possibility of a threatening "stalker" type personality . Talk about split-stream coverage !!!!! The cure ?? When I figure it out I'll share it . You got any ideas ?? I'd love to learn !!!
Biology , Sociology , God and Dating !! I raised 4 boys and 1 girl .... with some help . Trust me ... I know a little on each of these 4 topics . -and- I know how they relate to each other ... a little bit. Ever tried to teach a little boy to use the bathroom ... standing up , I mean ? God has given each sex some amazing "tools" . Some work perfectly , If .. a lil bit un-predictably !! March up to the commode , ... stand close , whip it out , aim , FIRE !!! Water (yeller water) goes every where !!!!!! .. except where you aimed ! Sometimes in a split stream , to give "extra" coverage . Intended ?? NOoo , course not .... Reality ... YESIREE BOB !!! SOoo what ?? Well , we "mature men" have the same problem , but with "multipe tools" now . The worst ?? Our mouth !!!!!! We take care and pick our words meticulously ... Then , there they go -and- they can't be re-called. We aimed for ... lively , enthusiastic , complimentary , endearing , humorous and , oh yeah , "entertaining ". "SHE" hears ... bragging , implied sexual innuendo , insensitivity , in-sincerity , etc etc . Even , the possibility of a threatening "stalker" type personality . Talk about split-stream coverage !!!!! The cure ?? When I figure it out I'll share it . You got any ideas ?? I'd love to learn !!!
Clickety Clack & Pumpkin Chiffaun Pie !!!! Could just be me , But , I doubt it !!!! Met this sweet youg thing (as Seniors go) had lunch , told my growng-up-on-the-farm stories ... kid stories and "BAM" !!!!!!! It Worked !!! GOT AN INVITE TO SOME HOME-MADE PUMPKIN PIE !!!!!! Folks , IT DON'T GET NONE BETTER !!!!! After pie ?? Who knows !!!!! Maybe a football game ?? Naaawww !! Stay in there , keep pitching .... never , Never , NEVER GIVE UP !!!
Clickety Clack & Pumpkin Chiffaun Pie !!!! Could just be me , But , I doubt it !!!! Met this sweet youg thing (as Seniors go) had lunch , told my growng-up-on-the-farm stories ... kid stories and "BAM" !!!!!!! It Worked !!! GOT AN INVITE TO SOME HOME-MADE PUMPKIN PIE !!!!!! Folks , IT DON'T GET NONE BETTER !!!!! After pie ?? Who knows !!!!! Maybe a football game ?? Naaawww !! Stay in there , keep pitching .... never , Never , NEVER GIVE UP !!!
Humor ... Balm for the soul , Bridge between people !!! I'm a family farm product ... seen a lot of things , some totally funny ! Heard one today , tops em all !!! Seems this girl had a Billy (male) goat ... Raised him in a chicken lot ... "HE" goat though he was a chicken (hen) !!! Figures out how to get inside the coop ... Repeatedly he , Observes the hens sitting on their eggs . Hens leave their nests , the goat climbs up and ... ...Monkey see Monkey do ... "HE" plops down on the eggs !!!!!! CRRUuuuNCH "scrambled eggs" So what ?? Well reminds me of me ...... I climb into the "Cyber Dating world" , I see all these beautiful women ... left behind by some idiots of the male persuasion . Their exit .. my entry !!! Smash go the Eggs !! They are delicate now , damaged or weakened ... by the previous experience !! I have to learn to "alite" softly . I am viewed suspiciously , cautiously , rightly so !! I must build "trust" , "credibility" , and make certain amends for the damages of the others . Right ?? No .. Not right . Fair ?? No .. Not fair . Reality ? Most definitely , "YES" . Go slow ... be understanding , be compassionate !! For me ... ex-fighter pilot , ex-Jock .... a real task !!!!!
Humor ... Balm for the soul , Bridge between people !!! I'm a family farm product ... seen a lot of things , some totally funny ! Heard one today , tops em all !!! Seems this girl had a Billy (male) goat ... Raised him in a chicken lot ... "HE" goat though he was a chicken (hen) !!! Figures out how to get inside the coop ... Repeatedly he , Observes the hens sitting on their eggs . Hens leave their nests , the goat climbs up and ... ...Monkey see Monkey do ... "HE" plops down on the eggs !!!!!! CRRUuuuNCH "scrambled eggs" So what ?? Well reminds me of me ...... I climb into the "Cyber Dating world" , I see all these beautiful women ... left behind by some idiots of the male persuasion . Their exit .. my entry !!! Smash go the Eggs !! They are delicate now , damaged or weakened ... by the previous experience !! I have to learn to "alite" softly . I am viewed suspiciously , cautiously , rightly so !! I must build "trust" , "credibility" , and make certain amends for the damages of the others . Right ?? No .. Not right . Fair ?? No .. Not fair . Reality ? Most definitely , "YES" . Go slow ... be understanding , be compassionate !! For me ... ex-fighter pilot , ex-Jock .... a real task !!!!!
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